I quit my job last month and am currently applying to several jobs, and also a college course. It's sort of a fork-in-the-road moment in my life (I have savings and no kids) so I'm deciding between several options - cushy corporate jobs in a slightly different area to before, or college course in my "passion" with part-time work alongside. This decision in itself is quite stressful.
I've spoken to several recruiters during this time. One in particular is driving me to almost the point of nervous breakdown. The other recruiters have called me only for an interview request, and some prep. Very brief, no hassle at all.
She has called me for prep, feedback, "updates on the process" which is several phonecalls a week telling me nothing new. After I interviewed at a company I didn't like the feel of, she called me twice asking "if they gave you an offer would you take it", and calling me during my wedding AND honeymoon basically saying "we hope to hear an update from them soon". She's also added me on Whatsapp and leaves me voicemails/Whatsapps every time I don't answer the phone! She started off trying to be like my best friend but now feels like a major stalker.
Now I've got an offer from them (no idea how this happened and I don't think I want the job) and she is hounding me for a reference, saying it is urgent and must be done by tomorrow morning. Is she expecting me to chase my old manager for a job I don't really want, before I even have any details of the offer? I might be unemployed but it doesn't mean I'm hanging by my phone all day beholden to her! I've told her I prefer email but she is calling/Whatsapping me about something pretty much every day.
I'm not a super assertive person but I need to know how to politely tell her to back off, and if she carries on I want to pull out of the other job she's put me forward for, because I can't deal with speaking to her anymore (which I would have to do if I took it, to tell her how I'm getting on in the first 6 months...)
HELP