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What did you want to be when you were leaving school and did you make it

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didkdt · 18/08/2019 23:24

When I finished my A-levels I thought I was going to be some amazing child psychologist (too many American films) it didn't take long at uni for me to realise that wasn't actually how I wanted to spend my life.

I now work in the 3rd sector in a role that I never even considered aged 18, but everything I have done has somehow naturally led to this role,

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ohmysoul · 19/08/2019 08:53

I want to work at CERN as a particle physicist. I ended up as a physics teacher!

IWouldPreferNotTo · 19/08/2019 08:59

I wanted to be an engineer and started doing electrical & electronic engineering and basically discovered that I hadn't worked hard enough during A-levels and lacked the drive to bring my skills up to an acceptable level to be able to complete the degree. It was suggested (with no option to refuse) that I move to an easier course (Computer Science) and now I work in IT.

SimonJT · 19/08/2019 09:02

I wanted to be a rugby player, I was a semi-professional player in National 1 for a few years, I then moved down to an essex 1 team as I couldn’t commit enough time.

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hiddenmnetter · 19/08/2019 09:03

Wanted to be a doctor at school, but in my teenage rebellion did absolutely no work so had terrible high school results. Then went to uni, and discovered I loved philosophy so thought I’d get a PhD and become a philosophy lecturer. Then I met my now wife while doing my masters, and needed a real job with a real income before I could get a PhD so now I work on the underground 😂

TravellingSpoon · 19/08/2019 09:10

I wanted to work in marketing or as a writer. Something with words, and I would like in London and flounce about stylishly.

It never happened but I love my life. Having 2 boys with disabilities very young has shaped my career too. I am a carer for adults with learning disabilities who have extreme challenging behaviour. I didn't finish my a levels but have various vocational qualifications and although my job is low paid and highly stressful, it is challenging and rewarding.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 19/08/2019 09:15

A mum, all I ever wanted to be was a mum. All my life plans where based around being a mum.

I’m infertile so that didn’t quite work out!

I also wanted to be a physiotherapist or a best selling author.

I’m a nanny so not sure what happened there!

ChrisPrattsFace · 19/08/2019 09:19

I wanted to do everything. Literally every job appealed to me, dance teacher/forensics/ecologist/nurse/hairdresser - you name it and I pretty much wanted to do it.
I was a failure at school, and I’m not a registered veterinary nurse.
It’s a love/hate job.

ChrisPrattsFace · 19/08/2019 09:20

I’m now** a registered veterinary nurse.

Isthebigwomanhere · 19/08/2019 09:20

I wanted to be a chef
I am a chef
I hate being a chef 😀

DontCallMeBaby · 19/08/2019 09:28

At around leaving school time I think the ideas I had in my head were law, journalism, military, civil service. I more or less gave up on the first two as I had unrealistic ideas of what they’d be like, and thought I couldn’t do them. Military - Navy, specifically - my heart wasn’t really in and it was incredibly competitive for women at the time. Did my degree, applied for all kinds of things, ended up in the civil service as a failed fast streamer. I didn’t have any idea what it would be like when I decided it was something I wanted to do - some sort of vague thing about working in Whitehall wearing a suit. I’ve done all sorts, from generic stuff like audit and HR to things that were barely dreamt of when I left school.

DD is 15 so has already had to make choices that will impact her future career. As well as keeping her options open the main thing I’ve tried to get across is not to be cowed by thinking ‘I can’t do that’ in the face of what you think a role is. That’s what happened with me and law - my mental image was of eloquent barristers cross-examining witnesses. Now I know there’s far more to law than that, and that of course as a teenager you find that sort of thing daunting - even if that’s the high level career you aim for, there’s a lot of learning and training on the way there!

jmh740 · 19/08/2019 09:29

I wanted to be a nanny on a cruise line, started the course did 6 months decided it wasn't for me and that I wanted to teach, so went to do my A levels got pregnant and failed them. Worked in retail for 14 years and hated it did a degree at night school then went to work in a childrens home which was my favourite job, had another baby and couldn't work shifts went back to college and did a teaching assistant course now work 1:1with sen children love it but hate the temporary contracts.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 19/08/2019 09:41

From very young I wanted to be a primary school teacher and probably would have trained to do that had I not been talented at languages at school. In 6th form my languages teacher was horrified at me “wasting my language skills” by doing primary teaching and not languages at uni. She had visions of me joining the diplomatic service I think (that’s just not me, though!). I also had a next door neighbour who was an experienced primary teacher and who was always ranting about how it has changed for the worse. So both those things put me off and I applied half heartedly for French at uni without looking too closely at the content of the course. No surprise that I dropped out in my first term!

Instead of taking time to really think about what I was going to do, and explore the option of actually doing the primary teaching after all, my mum panicked and told me I had to get sorted ASAP. That’s all the help she gave me. they didn’t have a clue how to help I suppose. I guess they should have really told me to stick with my gut instincts and look into the primary teaching but there was no easily available info then like there is these days on how to apply for a uni place once you’ve dropped out and no longer in school. I was lost, really, and needed someone to advise me but didn’t have anyone.

So ended up doing NVQ in business admin for a year just as something to do while panicking about “wasting my life”! I knew someone who was doing a new course at the ex-poly in my home town (hadn’t even considered that because I was academic and ex-poly’s were not something we were pointed towards by 6th form staff). I quite liked the sound of it, and it specifically mentioned that people from non-traditional backgrounds ie not straight from A-levels, would be considered. As a drop out I jumped at it.

Enjoyed the course and had a good time and I am doing what I got qualified in. (Very outing so not saying more). Also working in a secondary school so still that link with education that I always wanted! But the job has changed a lot, there is no real career path so quite poorly paid.

I have always wondered if I would have made a good primary teacher. I suspect I would have, I was a good “all-rounder” af school in terms of subject ability, and play the piano which is always useful in primary!

The time was never right to go back and do it though so too late for me.

I think young people are lucky in that it’s so much easier to find information on pathways into things. These days there are so many ways of doing a degree that it’s not just a “straight after A-levels or never” kind of a decision. Some of the people who are most successful in their career seem to have not been top of the class at school but have taken apprenticeships, worked their way up in a sector that way, then decided to do their degree at a later stage once they knew what they ACTUALLY needed to study to progress further.

I wish Labour hadn’t pushed for 50% of young people to go to uni. It’s a mistake for many to take such important decisions so young. Once the funding has been used on One degree at age 18 then it becomes virtually impossible to change careers later on if it needs another degree (and so many have changed to unnecessary degree entry when before it was training on the job - terrible idea!!). Your only option seems to be reducing to minimum wage starting at the bottom competing with 16-18 year olds who are doing apprenticeships and living at home with mum and dad so no outgoings.

Very frustrating and I will be advising my children very carefully

WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa · 19/08/2019 09:52

I wanted to be a food tech teacher. I lost my way for a few years but made it eventually. Now I work in a senior position that has no teaching and I miss it a little. 😊

fussychica · 19/08/2019 09:52

Teacher since primary school but I chose the wrong degree course and hated it so when I was offered the chance to join the civil service management scheme at the end of my second year I jumped ship with a Dip HE instead of a BEd. Spent my whole career in various posts across the civil service, now early retired.
Still sometimes wonder whether I would have been a good teacher but far too late now.

wonkylegs · 19/08/2019 10:02

I wanted to be an architect from the age of 8, I am an architect now with my own practice.
It wasn't an easy and straight forward path though
I got glandular fever during my a-levels which meant I missed a whole lot of school and had to repeat a year. I then got to uni and in my first year was diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis, I was really really ill at first and thought I would have to give up on my career choice. With some extra time, some pretty strong meds and a lot of perseverance I got there though.
There were some wobbles and still are on a tough day but I really love architecture and that passion got me through.

hopski · 19/08/2019 10:09

I wanted to be in the army, I'm now a teacher ☹️

Babdoc · 19/08/2019 10:19

Wanted to be a doctor. Didn’t get in after A levels, but was determined, so wrote to the medical schools that rejected me and asked if they’d reconsider! Bit cheeky, but one of them said if I reapplied the next year and listed them higher up the UCCA form they’d take me.
So I took a stopgap job in a housing department for a year, then went off to Scotland to study medicine.
I retired 3 years ago after 36 years as a hospital doctor.
Fascinating and satisfying career, despite the grim 80 hour continuous shifts we used to work as juniors, back in the days of the 120 hour week.

whattodowith · 19/08/2019 10:26

I wanted to be an actress, I’m an English teacher.

happypotamus · 19/08/2019 10:31

I wanted to be a nurse, had wanted that since I was about 3, so did A levels, went to uni to do a paediatric nursing degree and have been a nurse for nearly 15 years. I love it apart from the days that I hate it, but, because it is the only thing I have ever wanted to do, I don't have an alternative for when I hate it and feel like I can't do it anymore.

Teaonthelawn · 19/08/2019 12:29

WeknowFrogs - just wanted to say..me too. I was a food tec teacher - now teaching adults and I still miss it from time to time.

Star801 · 19/08/2019 12:32

I secretly wanted to be a vet but I never went for it. I’m a teacher and enjoy it.

TowerRingInferno · 19/08/2019 12:34

Academic or writer.
No to both.

Drogosnextwife · 19/08/2019 12:38

Make up artist to the stars. Did the course, realised I don't actually like being that close to people or touching them that much, had a baby, couldn't travel the way you need to to be freelance so became a childminder. This was before the make up boom. Now everyone and their granny is a make up artist so it was probably best.

NuffingChora · 19/08/2019 12:38

Always wanted to be a vet, made a fairly snap decision to apply to medicine instead, became a doctor, which almost broke me. Stuck at it for 3 years, currently a SAHM trying to work our WTF to do next, but stalling that decision by having another baby 😬.

Bourbonbiccy · 19/08/2019 12:41

I didnt really know what I wanted to do. I had a good head for business but hated maths (although my teacher put me off at a young age and made me scared if it)

I then went on to combine the 2 and I am very happy, worked in finance (turns out I'm really not all that bad ) and combined it with my business qualifications.

Worked hard for years but I am now very happy at home with my child ( I hated children, back then also ) and simply wouldn't have done anything differently. Where I go next is anyone's guess depending on the day 🤔🤔🤔