I can't remember my twins being little.

[WhenWillItBeCold]

This sounds strange but it dawned on me yesterday that I cannot remember much from when my dtwins were babies.

They are nearly 5 and I got the photo album out yesterday. Every picture of my eldest I can remember taking and remember vividly moments of them being young, but not for my twins. I genuinely couldn't remember when most the pictures were taken.

I don't really know how they have gone from babies to nearly 5 year olds. As weird as that sounds.

It's got me a bit worried that my memory is getting poor.

Has this happened to anyone else?

I remember a lot more about my eldest than my youngest, probably because when the youngest arrived I was also looking after a needy toddler and neither were sleeping well, and I was barely functioning - I imagine that would be worse with twins!
It could just be that?

Could that because you had twins? And so was bloody knackered all the time.

I think your brain has more trouble storing memories when you're sleep deprived.

I can’t remember that much from my second child’s babyhood as he didn’t let me sleep!!! Three hours interrupted sleep every night for six months. It was hell.

If you want to remember what toddler twins are like, you can come round mine anytime....

Seriously though, do you have any other areas where you don't remember stuff? May I ask, did you have any pnd at the time?

It doesn't feel quite the same as sleep deprivation. I actually was more sleep deprived with my first born and I can remember every bit of how that felt.

Maybe it's because I had 3 small children and life was just so constant and repetitive, my brain chose not to remember much.

I have 3 children - 4 1/2 years apart. Can remember lots of anecdotes about eldest - funny things he said etc. Virtually none about the younger two. Feel a bit guilty. I think it all got jumbled up in the baby chaos and sleep deprivation. Glad not just me.

I have this with my twins too. I feel really sad about it. The first year was so incredibly stressful that I can’t remember anything. I don’t know what their first words were or anything. I have since had a singleton and it has been so much easier; I have actually enjoyed him and savoured every moment. I feel really sad that I don’t have the same relationship with my twins.

I have similar with my 3rd, theres a 17m gap between 2&3 and while I remember my 2nds milestones, I could not tell you when my 3rd walked 🙁

Neither 2 or 3 were sleepers so I put the lack of memories down to that.

@feesh your definitely not the only one! They have started asking me to tell them stories of when they were babies but all I can talk about is our eldest. Sometimes I make things up so they don't feel left out

Yeo same here with my second. I have a 16 month gap and dd1 was a tricky toddler. Can't remember much about dd2 at all :(

I only have one, she is 7 months old but I don't remember much at all from the early days and it surprises me when I look at photos of her what she looked like and how much she has changed

I think at the time I was just so focused on getting it right and getting through it that I just didn't take it all in. Shame in one sense but tbh I'm just glad to be passed that newborn stage.

I thought I was alone in this. I can't remember, specifically, months 2 through to about 1yr of her life. I'm not sure why though. I know I was abit stressed those months with moving and money issues but...idk. Its weird.

I have the same problem. I remember so much about DC1's development, when he walked, his vocabulary at different stages etc. but almost nothing about DC2's milestones.
I put it down to post traumatic stress at having to cope with a toddler and baby at the same time.
Well done you OP! I don't think I could have survived twins never mind retain memories of those traumatic early years.

I've got friends with triplets who say the same - it's just a blur of little babies needing looked after.

It's probably not that your memory is bad, but more of a sign that you didn't have time to stop and draw breath!

My twins are almost 7 and I have no recollection of their first birthday. I can’t seem to find any photos either! They asked me what their first words were and I can’t remember 😳. I remember all of this for dd1 though ☹️.

Thank you so much everyone! You have made me feel a lot less alone

Exactly the same for me. I had three under two (one then twins) My memory of the baby and toddler years is VERY patchy. I can't remember first words or when they walked.

I don't remember the first 9 months of my son's life due to a combination of tiredness and what I now know to be undiagnosed PND. I didn't ask for help and still feel a bit guilty. With twins and another child you were probably just so busy.

I don't think it's strange. It makes sense to me, you had two babies at once and that required so much of your mental and physical energy that you didn't have much to spare to do things like remembering. I don't have twins but I do have a small gap, and I have a similar deficit of memories with the second. You just don't have time to notice much when you're keeping two very small ones alive.

Same here. I had newborn twins and a2.5 year old. Most of that first 18 months with all three is a bit of a blur.

I had a 2 year when my twins were born , I also make up things that I don't remember.

I dont remember their first words , when they got their first teeth,when they walked 🥺

I do however remember when my twin ds was toilet trained and it was worst parenting job ever! as he was 3 and half the fog had obviously lifted at that stage.