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Does anyone else struggle to stop buying gifts etc for DC?

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yestwoplease · 17/08/2019 12:18

Have NC'd in case I get flamed Grin

I have two children, 2.5 and 3mo. DD (2.5) always asks for toys etc and I really struggle to say no because I don't want to say no. We're not well off by any means but I don't go into debt over it or anything- I just can't help but wanting to spend all of my disposable income on gifts for her to make her happy. Does anyone else do this?

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WanderingTrolley1 · 17/08/2019 12:21

I can’t help but buy things if I feel the DC will like/enjoy/benefit from it (which is often)...

Specialkay1983 · 17/08/2019 12:27

I was the same with DS1 but to be honest he began to expect it every time we were out and would have a melt down if I had to say no occasionally which was embarrassing. I also felt he became really ungrateful for what he received, would play with the toy for a little bit and then lose interest quickly. Started saying no more frequently and he no longer asks so appreciates when he does get something now. Won’t be doing the same with DS2 who is 10 months.

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yestwoplease · 17/08/2019 12:28

But it's mostly not even when she's there, it's when I see something and I know it'll bring her joy, I can't help it Blush

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OtraCosaMariposa · 17/08/2019 12:31

Children of that age ask for stuff all the time. Usually brightly coloured, cheap plastic which has drawn their attention.

You are doing them absolutely no favours by buying everything they ask for. "Not wanting to say no" is poor parenting. Every child has to hear no.

Nothing wrong with saying "no, you can't have it. Let's go to the park."

RoseMartha · 17/08/2019 12:42

If you are buying everything they ask for now which I am imagining is fairly cheap things, think how much they will expect in ten years time.

Say no sometimes it does not do your child good to get things all the time.

littlepeaegg · 17/08/2019 12:44

Yup, I spoil my son! I'm too soft!

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yestwoplease · 17/08/2019 12:50

When I say I don't want to say no, its not because I'm worried of a tantrum, it's because I want her to have everything she wants.

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Apolloanddaphne · 17/08/2019 12:56

It's probably fine right now but will become an issue as they get older and start making frequent and expensive demands. Stop buying stuff so often.

WanderingTrolley1 · 17/08/2019 13:35

I’m the same, yes. If I can afford it, why should I say no?!

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