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Worried about son

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LatestHulk · 17/08/2019 00:12

Son (almost 16) was knocked off his bike a few days after Christmas in 2016 (then 13). He in hospital until December 2017/January 2018. He probably won't be able to walk again so is in a wheelchair. He has accidents a lot now as he can't go to the toilet by himself. I have to do everything for him bath him, dress him etc.

Since he's been out of hospital he's only seen his friends a few times but now they all done want to know him. My DH looked at his phone earlier and they all added him to a group saying they don't want to be his friend anymore because they don't like him etc.

I had no idea because he's always had a smile on his face although at times he does say no one likes him etc but then I reassure him and he seems OK

I'm so worried about him 😢

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theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 17/08/2019 00:17

Jesus, that’s awful for your ds. How very sad.

And the SM group? How fucking horrible. I’m sorry he had to see that.

Is there anyone he can still rely on?

I’m sorry. I have no advice but feel so sorry for your ds. Are there any charities that could help?

bionicnemonic · 17/08/2019 00:31

I don’t have anything helpful to say but that’s so sad. I’m so sorry and I don’t understand this world sometimes Flowers

bionicnemonic · 17/08/2019 00:34

Does he have any online friends? Sometimes that seems to be the way teens run friendships

bionicnemonic · 17/08/2019 00:37

Could he join in any activities? Drama maybe?

thaegumathteth · 17/08/2019 00:39

What did the group chat actually say? I’d be telling their parents If possible that’s just not how you treat people

RubbingHimSourly · 17/08/2019 00:47

God I'd be going to their parents........ Your ds doesn't need people like that in his life and their parents need to know how cruel their children have been.

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LatestHulk · 17/08/2019 00:52

He doesn't have any online friends although he plays computer games a lot but not with anybody.

The group started with them telling him they were going to tell a girl he fancied her and he told them not to because he doesn't fancy her anymore. And then he left and they added him again and told him they don't want to be his friend because they don't like him and they called him childish for playing games aimed at younger children and not fortnite or gta and other games.

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skybluee · 17/08/2019 20:39

They sound horrible. I hope he can make some new friends somewhere else, are there any support groups or anything like that he could attend?

HeyMonkey · 17/08/2019 21:14

Horrible little cunts.

Is he part of any gaming groups, online or IRL? There's a huge community, including gaming cafes. If that's something he enjoys could he begin my joining some groups online?

SunshineDays2019 · 17/08/2019 22:35

Sorry if this is not appropriate, but does he have upper body strength? I was wondering about sporting activities for wheelchair users where he could be amongst positive role models and hopefully also make some decent friends. How awful for your precious boy to read such spiteful and venemous messages. Has he finished GCSEs or is that next year? (assuming uk)

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LatestHulk · 18/08/2019 21:04

Only just seen these replies

He does have upper body strength.

He is going to go back to school in a few weeks for year 11. He was happy to go back and wanted to but now he told me he's going to be alone the whole time.

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LatestHulk · 18/08/2019 22:50

He occasionally plays with about 2 people online but he doesn't talk to them in a way a friend would like if he knew them in real life they just talk about the game or YouTube (one likes the same you tuber as him). But they aren't online when son is (different timezones probably).

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 19/08/2019 00:11

Hopefully the teachers will make sure he’s in a form with nice kids and not left alone. It might be worth informing them the school that his old friends have let him down, since they might be expecting him to just slot back in with his old group.

Getting him into disability sport is a really good idea.

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LatestHulk · 19/08/2019 09:25

Yes I will let The school know. He will be in a different form so hopefully a few of them will be his friend.

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Belgravian · 19/08/2019 11:12

I’d remove him from that school altogether so that he doesn’t have to suffer those awful pupils again.

New school, new beginning and a chance to make real friends if he agrees.

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LatestHulk · 19/08/2019 12:37

He wouldn't want to move schools as the school gave him the choice to go back there or to be home schooled for the last year but he wanted to go back.

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LatestHulk · 23/08/2019 14:11

He's meant to go back Tuesday and I'm so worried. He's said he will be alone at break and lunch because his old 'friends' are going to tell them to not go by them

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Belgravian · 23/08/2019 14:17

Under no circumstance would I send my child to that school.

bionicnemonic · 23/08/2019 14:36

That’s bullying plain and simple.
Have the school acknowledged that and put an action plan in place. Surely this is the schools chance to teach about inclusion and kindness? Your son sounds really level headed, you must be very proud of him

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