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Think I know another MNetter!

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IknowyouIwannasayhi · 16/08/2019 09:32

I have NC as I don't want the poster to feel outed.

I have never knowingly come across some body I know on here and I have been around on and off for years.
It feels odd to come across someone I have spent time with in rl but who does not recognise me.

I don't want to out this person as MN is clearly a place where they feel safe to air their thoughts and I don't want to take that away from them.

I have done a search to check it is who I think it is and I was right but now I feel sad.

The poster is a lovely person and until we lost touch a few years ago ( I moved 100s of miles away) we were friends.
Their posts seem to show they are having a tough time are lonely and are not feeling so great about themself. It makes me want to post and say how great they are and I would like to get back in touch.

Anyone else found someone they know on Mn?

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Goawayquickly · 16/08/2019 09:35

Could you find her on Facebook and keep in touch that way?

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IknowyouIwannasayhi · 16/08/2019 09:43

I have search FB and twitter but they are not on there.

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Gentlemanwiththistledownhair · 16/08/2019 09:48

Do you still have their phone number? Could you just do a quick, "was just thinking of you the other day" text?

Or if you remember their address, a quick note to say you've lost their details, but would like to get back in touch, here are mine?

EileenAlanna · 16/08/2019 10:06

Why not send them a private message here on MN? Ask if they're your old friend & if so you'd love to get back in touch.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 16/08/2019 10:13

Send her a message. Much more sensible than this vague thread which doesn't seem to have any purpose.

Veronicat · 16/08/2019 10:15

If it was me and we had been good friends I'd welcome a PM to reconnect.

DDIJ · 16/08/2019 10:19

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CupoTeap · 16/08/2019 10:36

I agree message them - I got chatting to a woman on holiday and am convinced she was a mn but didn't dare ask lol

Scorpiovenus · 16/08/2019 11:39

Stop making it about you.

Let her have her freedom. Stop trying to ruin that for her and be a friend. Shit I tell my friends nothing at all. And they don't push me to be out my comfort zones. Maybe she is INFJ and don't want people to know her true self. Stop being sensitive to stuff that has nothing to do with you.

darkriver19886 · 16/08/2019 11:45

I would send her a PM.

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IknowyouIwannasayhi · 16/08/2019 13:24

Did you fall out of bed the wrong side this morning Scorpiovenus as you seem to have issues reading.

No where in my post is it about me and I stated at the very beginning I do not want to out her on here as this is clearly a place she wants to be anonymous and has posted personal things.

I no longer have her number (stolen phone) but I am in contact with an old mutal friend so I may ask him to pass on my number to her.

Thanks for the advice.

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 16/08/2019 13:43

I'd send her a message. She can reconnect with you if she wants to, or she can change her name - I'd rather know if someone thought they knew who I was. She thinks this is a safe zone and if she's given enough away under her current name they you've identified her, others could too.

Fortheloveofscience · 16/08/2019 13:47

I’d like to think that if anyone on here recognised me then they’d also realise that I’d prefer anonymity. Please don’t search through her posting history, and do let her know by PM so she can name change.

If there’s then a way you can get in touch IRL then that sounds like a nice option.

Springfern · 16/08/2019 15:44

What are youbon about Scorpiovenus I'm INFJ and would love someone to PM me on here if they knew me in RL

Paddy1234 · 16/08/2019 16:01

Yes I recognised a friend on here and private messaged her and I was correct!

Sparklypurpleunicornsaremyfav · 16/08/2019 17:40

What does infj mean???
Maybe send her a private message and say you think you know her and would like to reconnect

Howmanysleepsnow · 16/08/2019 18:10

If it was me I’d want a PM

CruellaFeinberg · 16/08/2019 18:38

Google tells me....
Is Infj really rare?
It is mainly due to the rarity and complexity of the INFJ type. Exact percentages vary but the INFJ, the rarest of the personality types, is said to account for 1-2% of the overall population, females slightly more often than males. The INFJ has been called “The Mystic,” “The Counselor,” and “Empath”.21 Aug 2009

Sounds like bollocks to me...

WorraLiberty · 16/08/2019 18:41

Send her a message. Much more sensible than this vague thread which doesn't seem to have any purpose.

This ^^

The only purpose these threads serve is to make other Mumsnetters paranoid.

Allgirlskidsanddogs · 17/08/2019 12:54

Send her a message on here. If she wants to reconnect she can, if not she can name change. If you don’t admit on here that you know her then any future posts of hers will be like eavesdropping.

Gertie75 · 17/08/2019 18:30

I was recognised on here, a friend pm'd me and I didn't like it, I've had a rough few years which resulted in depression and after many months I plucked up the courage to talk about it.

I'm a very private person and liked the anonymity and hated the fact that this person could've looked through my old posts and found out more than I wanted to share in real life.

I name changed but am very guarded now, I swap details so I can't be recognised and feel like I can never reach out again.

I'd leave her alone.

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