My teen and I are on our own after split with ex 2 years ago . It wasn’t amicable . He refuses to talk to me re anything to do with our teen and makes very little time for our teen . He was always emotionally abusive to me also financially abusive and is a definite narcissist. It was very difficult to deal with other all the problems he brought to our lives but I was prepared to give my bestie our teen and Assumed he would too after our split . But no he has done everything to damage me by talking badly about me to everyone . I have put a lot into giving our teen the best childhood but could not allow myself to stay in the situation with this man any longer . Even though I knew he would make things difficult for me . He made up his own rules re seeing our teen and would not dis usd this with me . He works a lot but never wants to spend time with our teen sitting in his now home ( his mother’s )he will take our teen to classes a few times a week as he drives and he communicates with our teen by text . They may have a quick McDonald’s on the way home but that is as far as his parenting goes . There can be no discussion of money between him and I as he refuses to answer my texts and doesn’t seem to understand the pressure and stress this puts on our teen when things are needed for
school or whatever . Things can get very expensive and it is a begging match on the phone and then for our teen to ask for things when our teen rightly sees it is not teens place it is the adults that should be communicating. He is resentful and very toxic and will use money as a form of control .now he is doing the same thing on our teen and I don’t know what to do . He has not communicated much with our teen over the summer and teen is rightfully upset about that but he will not let me have my say re his awful attempts at parenting and how this can psychologically damage teen at such a vulnerable age . He must think he’s untouchable as he has never offered money for teen willingly . I also am wrong as I have never sought advise over this and am left in an awful position struggling to cope and make ends meet with house and teen and everything that is needed . Even when he was living with me he would only pay for half of bills down to the exact amount nothing more even though he is working . Aside from no financial help he is now ignoring teens texts when asking for money or lifts even though a lift is the only thing he could offer as he has a car . Today in no uncertain terms he told teen he was not answering texts because he only ever heard from teen when teen needs something even though it is him that has caused any relationship breakdown not teen . He is the adult teen is hurting so much what can I do for us both please help