When did I get pregnant! Please help :)

[midge353]

Hello I am due 19th December, I’m sure I conceived on March 28th I can’t remember my LMP though! Would it have been possible to have got pregnant through intercourses on 15th March? Please help I’m so stressed out :(

[ShowOfHands]

You conceived around the 28th. LMP is irrelevant.

[Flerkin]

Yes its possible if you cant remember your last period.

My dds scan gave a different estimated delivery date at each scan all over a 12 day period. When she was born, officially 3 days late, They doctoes were sure she was a few weeks early.

My periods were all over the place so I couldn't say exactly.

[genie10]

If you are worried about paternity, the only way to be sure is by taking a paternity test after your baby is born.

[midge353]

Thank you , won’t need a paternity when baby is here will be clear who’s D is ! My midwife said I shouldn’t worry about it. I had sex a lot around 26 March to 29 th and she’s sure this will be it. Just hard times for me being so stressed out. It’s my own fault

[LIZS]

Does it matter? The scan dates are normally used.

[midge353]

What do you mean? Sorry don’t understand

[LIZS]

Unless you had multiple partners the conception date is not as important as the one from the dating scan. You have an edd which is what appears on any paperwork.

[Celebelly]

I think it is for paternity reasons. I'm guessing the reason it will be obvious when baby is here is because the potential fathers are different races.

[Aquamarine1029]

If you're not concerned about the paternity of the baby, why does it matter when you conceived?

[PalmersGreen]

I can’t help with the technicalities, sorry, but the stress is not good for you.

Whatever will be will be and you need to come to terms with it. Chances are the midwife is right. What will happen if it was the 15th? Will you be homeless? Partnerless? Make a contingency plan if so, can a friend help? But please look after yourself and your baby now. It’s what you think and feel that matters to your baby.

[scaevola]

Scan dates are pretty accurate, but biological variety does mean they can be a good 2 weeks out

(this can even happen in pregnancies, such as IVF ones where dates were known in considerable detail)

If paternity is in doubt, then this is insufficient as evidence one way or the other. You will need a DNA test to put the matter beyond doubt.

[midge353]

Correct, I’m really stressed i go through stages where I know I’m being silly but then I think there’s is a chance. I didn’t a clear blue on April 15th and it said 2-3 weeks pregnant. This would go back to March 25th when I was sleeping with current partner a lot between then and 1st April

[midge353]

Thank you, I won’t be homeless I just feel I’ll loose my partner and it will ruin him, I got my self in this mess . Just a big worry I am already a worrier as it is. Thanks all for response

[C0untDucku1a]

try not to worry x

[DtPeabodysLoosePants]

Name change fail.

[midge353]

Lol my bad. How do I change previous

[midge353]

How do I deleted previous posts or change edit username

[Perunatop]

If there is any doubt about paternity (which there clearly is or you would not be stressed about it) then you should tell your partner so he is prepared for the possibility of the baby not being his. And get your contraception sorted out immediately after birth.

[Banangana]

I hope your partner knows that he may not be the father. I imagine that finding out it isn't his when the baby comes out would be very devastating for him.

[midge353]

Yes he knows and of course I will. I just wanted to know if it was possible with dates that’s all and my midwife being correct or not

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

I’m not sure how they work it now, but When I had dd. The due date you were given was 9 months and 7 days from your last period. Assuming it still works that way your last period would have been around 12 March, so 28 March more or less bang in the middle of your cycle. Therefore yes it does like like the baby was conceived around then. However the 15 th is also not impossible. You have to consider things like early ovulation and that Sperm can live for 7 days. My friend conceived the first day after her period.
Did the hospital not tell you exactly how many weeks the baby was measuring.

[ShadyMeLady]

This happened to me over 15 years ago when I was very young and stupid and I didn’t know back then it was based on LMP so when I went for a scan and they said I was 12 weeks, I didn’t know it was 10 weeks since conception. I then told the wrong person they were the father and messed up a few lives in the process (at the time).

Like you it was obvious who the father was when my DC was born and bit of a shock

But all’s well that ends well, although it wasn’t so great at the time.

My advice to you is be honest with both of them, don’t do what I did.

[DieCryHate]

I was due on 19 December and I've just checked my dates as I was tracking and I would've conceived either 25th or 27th March. Obviously everyone's different but hope that helps.

[midge353]

thankyou everyone :

[amusedbush]

At least there's likely to be a definitive answer when the baby arrives. My ex-friend (who is white) was sleeping with two men (both black) around the same dates and ended up pregnant. She kept the baby and just picked the bloke she preferred, told him he was the dad and he is none the wiser - five years later