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Twins!

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PippaPug · 14/08/2019 08:16

Just found out last week I’m expecting twins and I’m a little overwhelmed!

Can I have some positive stories about having twins please?! And just anything that helped you get through the early days and weeks - it’s early days but I do want to start getting organised and I don’t know if there is anything for twins that’s a must!

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twinsbelly · 14/08/2019 19:31

My twins are nearly two and I have a three year old as well. Twins are AMAZING. It is super hard work and you will be tired but it is so lovely to watch them be little friends from the very beginning.

Accept (or ask for) help from people who won't overload you. I have one family member who is amazingly helpful and another who ends up creating more work.

Remember they're two individuals, I am trying not to call mine "the twins".

Brace yourself for being told "you've got your hands full" at least 45 times every time you manage to leave the house

Go with the flow, forget any expectation of normality for at least the first 6-12 months while you find your new normal. You'll love it.

Onprozacandmyhighhorse · 14/08/2019 20:32

My boys are now 25 and are the best thing that ever happened to us. Yes, it's hard work but we were so lucky, they were great sleepers and eaters. I loved how they reacted with each other and played together.
With regard to proms I had a traditional Silver Cross twin pram and a tandem Silver Cross buggy. The big pram was gorgeous and I walked miles with the boys.
Congratulations! You are truly blessed. Your lives will never be the same again. Enjoy every minute x

queenjaneapprox · 15/08/2019 00:30

Aw, congratulations! My twins are 6 on Friday. Don't underestimate the amount of rivalry you will get between them - I could probably get a job as a peacekeeper for the UN now!

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Glittertwins · 15/08/2019 07:57

Great advice from LogsOnFire and others. Definitely ignore advice from non multiples and try to avoid the competitive complaining. Ours slept through the night from 8 weeks old and certain mums didn't like hearing I wasn't tired because I had twins. I didn't talk about it, it was an answer to a question they asked me and evidently didn't like the answer!!
Our two are now 11 and just moving to secondary school.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/08/2019 09:09

For those whose twins had a single older sibling, did the older one get left out? DS will be 4.5 when my twins come, he's very used to being an only child so even a singleton would be a big adjustment but I worry he'll still be alone because the twins have each other and there's such a big gap. They're all boys

LadyPoldark · 15/08/2019 19:20

sleeping standing up I had a 2 year old when my twins were born , but I had boy/girl twins . He was never left out because they idolised him . He is a sweet easy going boy (still is at 13) .
I think maybe he was young enough for it not to impact him with being left out , he often seems younger than my twins, especially my DD! The twins argue alot but noone ever argues with him.
I did worry about having same sex twins because of having an older sibling, but I guess you won't be able to see the dynamics until they get here.

Congratulations it's exciting and it's always going to be a worry about the impact on the eldest but the reward of having two younger brothers will definitely out way the negatives.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/08/2019 10:25

Tell DS, he specifically ordered one sister for Christmas, not 2 brothers. He isn't partic easy going, so I suspect any new sibling would be hard so maybe two won't be much different. And yeah I'm sure they'll all love each other eventually x

CurlyMango · 16/08/2019 21:27

Congratulations. My twins are also great friends and have spent days playing and sing with each other......they are now 14.

Take time and enjoy the moment. Everything passes and it will all be ok.

CurlyMango · 16/08/2019 21:27

*sing....BEING with each other

RapunzelsRealMom · 16/08/2019 21:45

Don't refer to them as "the twins" or give them rhymie names. Treat them as individuals.

I found the first year hardest but I learned to be kind to myself and not feel bad if we stayed home all day in pyjamas. I also took less showers than I'm entirely comfortable with!

Stick to a routine. Mine slept at the same time, ate at the same time, and poo'd at the same time. It made things easier.

If you choose to breast feed, try to persevere with tandem feeding. It gets easier! Plan ahead and prep drinks and snacks that you can reach (and the remote control)

Congratulations and good luck!

KickOffTheSundayShoes · 16/08/2019 21:58

Congratulations! My twins always slept at the same time so naps were always together and it stayed that way. This was the one thing we really stuck at actually. I had a friend whose twins just wouldn't do this and that was a lot harder.

Do whatever makes things easier for you. Twins are hard at first, but so rewarding. Mine are 8 now (boy/girl) and have always loved being twins. They're not remotely bothered if people call them 'the twins', they see it as a positive thing to be honest. This could be as they are boy/girl though. Saying this, people will always compare them (especially teachers in my experience) but we haven't had too many issues.

I love the bond they have (although they argue more now getting older, but always have each other's back) and their shared experiences. And honestly, there is nothing cuter than baby twins together

ellesbellesxxx · 16/08/2019 22:03

Congratulations!!! Our twins are two :)
If you can, get a cleaner for those early weeks.
Get as much batch cooking done now and frozen for the early weeks!
And don’t refuse offers of help :)
I love having twins.. they have the best bond!

ellesbellesxxx · 16/08/2019 22:04

Oh and as someone else, def find your local twins group and join tamba

Mollypolly2610 · 16/08/2019 22:19

Mine are 35, wish I had MN in those days! They were premature, she had a lot of it’s and he had jaundice. I also had a 2 year old. Very difficult time but we struggled through ok. Great fun when they were a bit older.

Mollypolly2610 · 16/08/2019 22:20

She had a lot of fits!!!

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PippaPug · 19/08/2019 21:47

Thank you to everyone and all your advice! I like keeping them in baby grows for as long as possible - they are super sweet anyway so nice and easy!

I really want them to be in same routine eventually but know it won’t happen straight away!

Can’t seem to find a local twins group but maybe when I speak to the midwife she will be able to point me in the right direction

Thank you again!

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JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 19/08/2019 22:49

Mine are 18 mos today 👶👶😍😍

So in no partic order-

Do the Tamba parenting course

Medela hospital grade breast pumps are amazing and rentable from the company on an open ended lease

MountainBuggy Duet pram fits through standard doorways and into the boot of my normal sized family car

Do your pelvic floors like a demon

You'll be fine. People like to scare you. Ooh you'll never sleep again, you can't leave the house etc. This is bollocks. I take mine to cafes, the playground etc on my own and you have to have your wits about you but it's fine.

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