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Why am I so fucking tired?

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thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 14/08/2019 07:09

Over the past few months I have felt like a motor getting slower and slower.

I've always had a lot of get up and go. I LOVE sport, it's my passion, and keeps me sane. I've always run, cycled, swam most days and been very active, as well as working in a busy job (no kids).

However now it's getting to the point where I can't even do these things any more. I feel drained. I have no energy. on Saturday I didn't even get up until midday which is unheard of for me.

I have never felt like this before. Been to the GP who said he couldn't see anything wrong. But I feel like my life as I know it is ending. It might sound dramatic, but if I can't do my sport I don't know what else to do with my time and I am scared of getting depressed. I tried to run round the block yesterday and lasted ten minutes as I could barely put one foot in front of the other.

More to the point, if there were a tangible reason why I couldn't run etc any more I could deal with it and move on, but at the moment I feel like there is this inexplicable awfulness inside me that won't go away.

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IntoValhalla · 14/08/2019 07:11

Did your GP actually carry out any testing, ie bloods?
Or just decide from looking at you/talking that there’s nothing wrong?!

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 14/08/2019 07:19

Can I ask how old you are? I am going through menopause and feel like this all the time. Apologies if you're not 'of that age!'

HappyParent2000 · 14/08/2019 07:22

This has been the same for me, and I bet it’s only going to get worse.

As our child has gotten older his energy and need to always be active has taken its toll on us both.

With working full time and my partner being ill for long swathes of this year, me being the only driver and a few other complications has pushed me to the edge of burnout.

I’ve not felt this way since I was doing 70+ hour weeks all hours of the day, standing or walking for most of it!

My parented is keen for a second one, we have to do it really as it’s marriage ending stuff if we don’t.

It doesn’t help our main source of childcare outside of pre-school has been severely limited by building works and other things.

Life is pretty hard, all I can do is eat and be healthy, try to find the little things that make me happy and know those who depend on me so much will gain more independence soon. Hopefully not replaced too quickly by others needing it.

Singlenotsingle · 14/08/2019 07:23

Ask the GP for a blood test. Kidney function? Diabetes?

SinkGirl · 14/08/2019 07:23

Some GPs are absolutely ridiculous. What exactly did he expect to see with any of the many conditions that cause fatigue?

I’ve been going through this for a long time - my diagnosis is ME but I am pretty certain it’s hormone related in some way. Keep a diary of the severity of your symptoms if you can. Are you taking any hormones at the moment, HRT or contraception? Any recent changes? It’s actually shocking how much impact our hormones can have on all sorts of things.

Your GP needs to run a fatigue panel of blood tests to cover the most obvious causes of severe fatigue and take it from there.

SinkGirl · 14/08/2019 07:25

Oh and also, many women are told that it’s early menopause when in reality their thyroid isn’t functioning properly, but it’s not yet bad enough for the NHS to treat it. I’d make sure thyroid tests are done ASAP.

Anerak · 14/08/2019 07:25

Lyme disease. Pregnancy. Depression.
It's impossible to say over the internet. You need to push your doctor to test you if you fear there is something going on

EleanorReally · 14/08/2019 07:27

take it slow op, build it up,
do you eat a full healthy diet?
are you lacking anything?
did you have blood tests?

EleanorReally · 14/08/2019 07:28

could be low in vitamin D
or iron

MirrorHope · 14/08/2019 07:29

Ask for bloods get your thyroid, iron, ferritin, Vit D, folic and b12 checked - get your levels/results then do your own research as to what most people feel well on.

StumpyinSomerset · 14/08/2019 07:36

I was like that a month or two ago.After blood tests, turns out my B12 levels were low. Now taking supplements and altered my diet slightly. Now feel tons better.

Is it worth asking for blood tests?

Belgravian · 14/08/2019 08:17

Thyroid?

LadyOfTheFlowers · 14/08/2019 08:27

I only get completely exhausted in early pregnancy. Assume that's been ruled out?

TheGonnagle · 14/08/2019 08:32

Did your doctor do a urine test? I felt like that for a couple of years after I had dd, assumed it was having a baby and all the associated knackeredness. Turns out my kidneys really weren’t doing their job properly and my albumin had dropped dangerously low.
Go back, be demanding.

Tiredtessy · 14/08/2019 08:40

How old are you? Did you have blood tests? I am always always tired but it's no worse from month to month say, its more working to many hours, looking after DS, bad dirt and lack if exercise so what you are saying does not sound normal, demand blood tests

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 14/08/2019 08:44

For me, exactly the same symptoms, it was low iron and pernicious anaemia (autoimmune condition that requires life long b12 injections and folic acid). But the only way to know what it was was full bloods.

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thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 14/08/2019 08:44

Thanks all. I turned 38 in July.

He looked in my eyes and at my veins and said I look OK but I am going to push for blood tests because that doesn't sound very conclusive.

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thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 14/08/2019 08:45

I already have a diagnosed underactive thyroid but I was diagnosed with that at 21 and it's treated and under control so I don't think it's that.

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SinkGirl · 14/08/2019 08:56

Is it actually under control - are your levels optimal or just in normal range?

Eyes and veins? Is he a psychic doctor? FFS!

Wibblewobble99 · 14/08/2019 08:58

If the GP hasn’t done any bloods there’s no way they can conclude everything’s ok. It could be vitamin D deficiency or low iron - both are known reasons for being tired. When did you last have a blood test to confirm your thyroid levels were under control? It can change very quickly - I had a virus that attacked my thyroid. I went from ok to unwell in days and lost 2 stone in a few weeks. Hope you get it sorted quickly. X

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thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 14/08/2019 08:59

I'll be honest I have never really understood the whole thyroid thing. I just go for regular blood tests and do whatever they tell me to do! But he looked at my last result in March and said everything was normal on that front.

I really appreciate everyone's replies. I'd love it if there were an elegant solution because right now I just feel like everything's falling apart.

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SinkGirl · 14/08/2019 09:28

I’d put money on your thyroid results not being optimal and that being the issue - the normal range is totally inadequate.

Get a copy of your recent test results and then post on the Health Unlocked thyroid U.K. forum, lots of very knowledgeable people

You may be able to see your results online if you have online services, otherwise request a print out from reception. Unfortunately you need to inform yourself and fight for decent treatment these days.

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thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 14/08/2019 09:29

Thanks SinkGirl that sounds like good advice. I have always just been very accepting of whatever the doctor told me, maybe I need to be more feisty!

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Samaranian · 14/08/2019 09:30

Are you on the pill?

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