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Painful sex after abortion

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ocalaghan · 13/08/2019 22:23

Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, I'm not very familiar with the website and finding it a bit hard to navigate...

As the title says, I had an abortion very recently, less than two weeks ago. I've had quite a lot of sex since then but more often than not, it's been painful. Not always during (though sometimes it does, sort of like during a period when everything feels a bit swollen inside) but definitely afterwards, sharp pains. It stopped for a few days but it's started happening again. My bleeding also eased off but now that's back too.

I know it's safe to have sex after the abortion basically as soon as you feel you're well to, and the pain is bearable but not pleasant obviously. I know I don't have an infection as there are no symptoms. I think everything's maybe just a bit swollen from the bleeding so that's why it hurts.

I feel impatient to feel 'back to normal' and I guess I'm just wondering if anyone out there has had a similar experience. I am eager to be able to have sex with my partner pain-free and feel more like myself again.

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FromChaosToHarmony · 13/08/2019 22:41

I think you should abstain from sex, tampons, bubble bath etc for 2+ weeks following an abortion. The cervix is still open and anything abnormal can cause an infection. I had a termination in May and I'm sure i was told not to have sex for one month.

If you're experiencing pain I would wait a few more weeks, your body is telling you that its not ready yet.

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mindutopia · 13/08/2019 22:51

You need to slow down and give your body a chance to heal. I’ve never had an abortion, but I did have a miscarriage that didn’t happen as it should have an needed surgical intervention. It took me a week just to go back to work and when I did, I bled gushing amounts of blood and huge clots. This was after about 8 days. I couldn’t imagine having sex less than 2 weeks later. It’s a traumatic thing for your body to go through and does put you at risk of infection. I think it was about 6 weeks before I had sex again (and only because I was in a rush to try and get pregnant again).

ocalaghan · 13/08/2019 22:52

@FromChaosToHarmony They generally recommend waiting two weeks as a precaution but I was told you can do so as soon as you feel mentally ready, basically. It's frustrating because I'd like to be intimate but the cramps are annoying.

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FromChaosToHarmony · 13/08/2019 23:00

Maybe you could still be intimate but just avoid penetrative sex for the time being?

I would keep an eye out just in case you have developed or do develop an infection due to bacteria. I would keep an eye on your bleeding and if you experience pain without sex I would give the clinic a call and ask for advice. Also watch out during your next period for any clots etc.

Your body has been through (and is still going through) a lot. I was lucky and my bleeding stopped completely after a couple of days but my period after was horrendous.

Take care of yourself.

Livinginabubble22 · 05/11/2021 06:51

Hi @ocalaghan
I’m currently feeling the same as you
3 weeks after my Medical A

How did you feel soon after your problems? Is everything back to normal now? Or was there something to look at?

Thankyou x

Nwaekwe · 08/08/2023 06:03

Hello, I had an abortion and 4 to 5 weeks ago but I have not seen my period and sex is starting to get painful, what could be d cause?

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