Most amazing moments with a newborn?

[Lemonsqueasy]

Currently 36 weeks pregnant with first. Obviously wary about the bomb about to be dropped on my life but also v excited.. I reckon a lot of the time you must just stare at your newborn baby in disbelief.. is this true? Tell me about more beautiful moments pls!

I'm going to sound like a total party pooper, I'm really not meaning too but just be wary you may not immediately get that 'rush of love' I didn't, it came over a few weeks (probably after I was over the shock/exhaustion of labour), don't put pressure on yourself to enjoy every moment because you wont but that is absolutely fine! But yes, they are amazing, you wonder how you produced such a cute baby and love showing them off and talking about them to any/everyone! Take time to savour the newborn stage, it flies by so fast, I jow have an 8 month old with attitude (I didn't think the attitude came so early 🤣).

PS I gave birth at 36 weeks, get some rest and enjoy the peace while you have it

For the first 6 weeks or so my middle one just slept so we mostly sat looking at him thinking 'is this it'

I remember very clearly leaving the hospital with DD1 and we just stopped in the car park and marvelled that we were taking a baby home and no one was stopping us

My first was in special care for a week and I remember how odd it felt to miss someone I'd hardly met.
The three days we spent in "transitional care" together were the most contented of my whole life. Perhaps since I was a baby myself.

You do in awe and terror. But a few explosive nappies later...

I felt numb after both births. Not in a bad way I think, just generally a bit exhausted (and I had really easy labours) and glad that big was over.

Then you just have a huge learning curve no matter how much you thought you knew about babies before nothing you thought you knew is anything like suddenly being responsible for a tiny person that you don't know very well yet.

The love came much much later.

I didn't get that rush of love either....but I did keep looking at DS1 and thinking "I actually made that!"
I still think the fact that women can actually grow babies is amazing.

I sat looking at mine a lot. It still baffles me that I grew him inside me and got him out safely. Hes 18mo now and I still look at him and think 'I made you, isn't that magical' every now and then.

I loved just looking at my dd. Just the little movements and grunty noises. It is just amazing. She was an absolute nightmare of a baby and tested us to the max, but just also absolutely perfect as all babies are. Me and dh still discuss how wonderful she is most nights and she's 3 now

I didn't fall in love immediately but I can still remember this amazing strong apple + cinnamon pie smell of my newborn dd. Couldn't believe she's mine.

I remember feeling his breath on my arm and thinking "oh my god, it's an actual breathing thing! It breathes..!!" I was in awe and in love and utterly deleriously happy. It was also very hard but so worth it. The first night I spent crying and thanking God (I am not religious )

It was the best time of my life hands down.

Whereas in pregnancy I was not excited at all, scared I wouldn't love him, and decided he would call me by my name as I didn't want to lose my identity!

I did a lot of head sniffing. You know they give off happy chemicals from their heads right?

3 weeks in.
I was exhausted, in shock, healing, swollen, confused and overwhelmed.
I was lying in bed with dd, she looked at me full in the eye and gave me a lopsided first smile.
It was like being hit by a thunderbolt.

Oh and I thought the world would stop in its tracks! I had just had the most beautiful baby to ever be born. I was high for about 4 months.

The night we brought DC1 home, he fell asleep in the carrier so we put it in the middle of the living room.
Unsure of what exactly to do next we watched an episode of ER and waited for him to wake up. But also we were scared of him waking up IYKWIM.

The whole cluster feeding thing.
Everyone told me how difficult it would be and to prepare myself. I batch cooked, had loads of snacks in, warned DH, got box sets ready.

It's hard...but I started to really embrace it. Like, my newborn needs me, and only me, for 4 or 5 hours every evening. It's not that she's not getting enough milk, it's just biology. I had nothing else to do so I just sat and put my feet up. DH literally had to feed me more than once as she wouldn't go down in the evening (she wasn't too bad at night though in all fairness-but every 2-3 hours when she woke, again I just saw it as our special time together)

Those little noises. Oh my god. They're amazing. The squeaks and snorts.

My DD is 6 months now, and it's a whole new batch of exciting, wonderful, exhausting times.

No immediate love and I wish I could go back and say enjoy it! But my god, now I wish I could shut up about her. She amazes me constantly. I just adore her. I miss her falling asleep on my chest, I miss the cute little squeaks she used to make.

Dc1- massive rush of love and a big old golf ball in my throat so much so I forgot how to breath

Dc2 - this is odd because she doesn't look like dc2- took me a while to connect because the sleep was so awful and I probably had mild pnd

Dc3 - woah she doesn't look like any of us but i felt very protective of her. She was very ill and admitted to hospital for a while and I just felt bereft everytime i had to be away from her, however long or short

Absolutely none. And I'm not saying that to be unkind, I'm saying it because I wish someone had said it to me before I had mine. I felt like such a failure because I had no rush of love or moments of awe and wonder. The whole thing was boring at best and hellish at worst. But it was all worth it - she's 18 months now and I absolutely adore everything about her.

I wanted to be under a blanket with mine and do nothing but adore their furriness.

Someone once said to me (whilst looking at our babies) "all this! Just from fucking"
It's pretty amazing

I did lots of gazing adoringly at my DD, I used to love stroking her back as well it was so downy and soft.

I also got a lot of reading done and my partner rewatched all the Marvel films xD

Another party pooper here, with my first I felt like it could've been anyone's baby after he was born. I had two days of long, painful, sleep deprived labour and almost 3 hours of pushing so I was definitely in shock! Definitely no rush of love here, a very slow burner but by 7 weeks I realised I was quite enjoying life again and that was it. He's 3 now and I get a lot of "I can't believe he's mine" moments (especially when he's asleep!).

I'll never forget when we brought DD1 home from the hospital.

We put the car seat down, stated and both went "what the fuck do we do now" 😂😂

Still have no idea what we're doing 6 years and another child later 😂😂