Sorry, this is an essay!
DD is about to start secondary school. When they broke up, the year 6s started a WhatsApp group. Mainly full of nonsense but all fine. Now dd has had a run in with a boy who was in her class and I'm just thinking about the best way to tackle it.
This boy seemed perfectly pleasant, dd didn't have too much to do with him although his mother, who is lovely, is part of a group of friends I'm also in and we get on well, go out for coffee and meals etc. All good fun. Ordinarily I'd let it pass, dd won't especially see this boy again, different schools in September. So in theory I could just let it pass. The problem is what he wrote.
He had been effing and blinding on the group chat, the only one who was. DD (who admittedly can be a bit prim!) privately messaged him said that he might want to tone it down. He told her to fuck off, then called her a fucking piece of shit, a bitch and a n**r (we're not black btw in case that's relevant). He then sent her a voice message where he again called her a fucking piece of shit in such a cold menacing voice, I was shocked.
So how do I approach his mother? Or do I leave it as she won't really see him much? If he'd just been a bit rude then I wouldn't bother but what he said and how he said it really stunned me.