I've see it all now - FB

[catinboots99]

Photo of yer dead dad's ash filled plastic urn.

It's for sure time to deactivate.

What a horrible post. I'm sure they're grieving.

People do it in different ways.

I've seen two friends post pictures of their recently passed children.

One was a baby in full make up and a fancy dress.

I found them both very upsetting. It I can't imagine their grief and that trumps me being upset or put off by a photo.

Horrible?? I've posted on an anonymous forum not their actual FB feed

Agree with catofdoom people grieve in different ways

It’s only the urn for goodness sake!

What you may find horrible is poignant for them.

Maybe just unfriend them, I'm sure they'll be glad to be rid of you. I've seen loads of pointless posts but how horrible to talk about someone grieving.

I wouldn't do it, but I don't see the problem with an urn.

I'm with you OP it is a massive overshare I have also noticed on my fb a tread of people posting pics of dead loved ones graves or worse them standing next to the graves posing for a pic I cannot get my head around why anybody would want there pic next to a headstone.

I know people use fb in different ways. But, someone's just lost their Dad and seems to be reaching out to their friends for connection, support and caring. This is real life, unlike much of the trite on there. I'm curious: what do you think she should be posting at this time? Anything? Should we all just hide away at these times?

I hear you op. Nothing’s sacred anymore. If I was injured, dying or dead I wouldn’t want any images of that on social media. No ashes, no intensive care photos, no coffin. I’d come back and haunt anyone who did!

I don’t buy this ‘people grieve in different ways’ stuff either. A few years ago people managed to get through the process without putting sensitive pictures on Facebook.

You can reach out on social media without putting a photo of ashes on there though. Type or better still talk!

I deactivated after someone posted a photo of a pile of vomit on a trampoline, with the caption "I love my kids - not!!!"

An urn wouldn't have even registered as odd to me, although that might say more about the people I was 'friends' with.

I did some really strange things after my sons death. I made friends with a lady who had lost her son on the same day and we became Facebook friends

She posts lots of things I don't but I see her pain and all she is trying to show is how much she's hurting - I think sometimes it feels so enormous it makes you want to share it to try and make people understand.

We have a mutual friend and she commented that I had 'handled' our situation much better. I told her I was pretty sure neither of us had read the rules of what we 'should' be doing

I don't see her anymore.

Remember you choose to see her feed. Unfriend her if you prefer.

I mean the mutual 'friend'

It’s odd, to me, but there we go. The world keeps spinning.

I didn't post anything on social media but I do like my daughters urn. I put a nice ceramic flower next to it and it looks cute. She deserves a cute place. Lots of people have photo's of loved ones, I don't see a problem with an urn.

I'm with you OP it is a massive overshare I have also noticed on my fb a tread of people posting pics of dead loved ones graves or worse them standing next to the graves posing for a pic I cannot get my head around why anybody would want there pic next to a headstone.

Im failing to see the difference between that and eg a televised funeral service for a Royal or celebrity - or people going to monuments

I think it's weird that we don't acknowledge death more.

Im failing to see the difference between that and eg a televised funeral service for a Royal or celebrity - or people going to monuments

To me a televised funeral is just that but someone standing posing next to a headstone for a picture just seems weird to me.

Would anybody on here honestly say they would stand next to a graveside and pose for a picture what would you do with your face??? Smile?? Sad face?? What?? The concept baffles me

Dh's niece has posed by a grave, I think it's awful, she also posts photos on the anniversary of her looking sadly at a photo of her Nan or gets her husband and 2 young kids to make a hand circle around the photo.

She's also the type to check in at hospitals with no reason why and to post every time her kid sneezes, some people seem to thrive around the morbid.

People do use Facebook too much.
My MIL is doing my head in posting a "granny countdown" every other day because I'm due soon.
Why does everyone have to know?
Very annoying. She's the same with holiday countdown...no one cares!

She's also the type to check in at hospitals with no reason why oh yes MIL does this too...

What @Aqueo517 said with bells on.

Would I fuck want my sad little package of remains posted on FB. I'd like a diddly little bit of dignity in death please.

I must be on the minority though. I had a thread about OTT funerals deleted last week by MNHQ