Hi all. My son starts school in a few weeks. He’s been at a private nursery until now, and had a brilliant key worker who he chatted away to loads until she left in June. Since then he hasn’t spoken to any of the staff, only his friends. They hear him chatting away whilst playing etc but if he needs the loo he’ll ask a friend to tell the staff etc. He’s had 4 x 1 hour sessions at school but hasn’t spoken to anyone yet. He cried the whole of the first session, then was quiet but joined in with a bit of dancing and games without speaking at the last few. I have health anxiety and general anxiety disorder for which I’m having cbt and counselling and I do recognise that sometimes this clouds my judgement and makes me over react to situations however I’ve been reading up on selective mutism and I’m worried I should be doing more for my son. We had a play date with two girls who know each other very well and he wouldn’t speak to them but did try and join in games and had a good time anyway. He’d speak to me too but only when the room was empty. I don’t want to make a big deal out of something but also don’t want to let him down if I should be doing more..
My friend works at the school and said she looked out the window and he was playing with another little boy and girl and looked really happy!
What do you think? Thank you