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Please help me to stop catastrophising

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Y0ubetterwerk · 12/08/2019 20:14

In the last five years or so, I have found myself getting into right states over imagining the worst possible things happening to the people I love. If DS is away from me for any length of time, I worry (needlessly) that I'm not there if something goes wrong. If someone else is taking care of him, I panic that he'll be in a car accident, or end up in hospital. I have truly awful, awful nightmares about his death and wake up petrified until I've checked on him or called whoever he is with.
It's not just with DS, but withDP and DM. They are the three most important people in my life and I spend a ridicous amount of time panicking about things that will likely never happen.
It's now got to the point where my catastrophising is feeding into every area of my life. I can't concentrate, worry endlessly, don't sleep well, nervous habits that I fought so hard to get under control are returning(namely nail biting and hair pulling).
I have a constant knot of worry in my tummy.

I do not want to be like this anymore. Has anyone ever got past this? What do I do?

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ohmysoul · 12/08/2019 20:21

OP I really feel for you. Catastrophising is very distressing and absolutely exhausting. I used to do similar about my daughter and it was part of my OCD. I had to have therapy. I think you should go and talk to your GP and explain how you're feeling. They can help.

FluffyCloudsInTheSky · 14/08/2019 02:12

I've been there & it's horrible. For me it was part of vainglorious severe anxiety so therapy & self-care had to retrain my brain

Thanks
TinyMarie · 14/08/2019 02:32

Hello OP. I also catastrophize which is just another branch to my severe anxiety and also linked to my OCD.
It's very hard to challenge these thoughts yourself because you are caught in a cycle of thought but would recommend some CBT therapy. It's not a quick fix but will help you to view things from different perspectives and being you down from jumping to worst case scenarios.

DinosaurRoarred · 14/08/2019 02:37

I have been there too OP. CBT was amazing & taught me how to effectively rationalise my thoughts.

If you visit your GP they should have info on nhs provision near you.

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