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Really nice MIL

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RedCowboyBoots · 12/08/2019 20:08

I have a really nice MIL. Really lovely. She is supportive and kind, never questions my judgement, offers to have the kids but would never demand it. I see lots of stories on here about mother in laws and find it rather sad to see how many of them are seemingly awful, so I thought I'd see if I could bring some positivity to MN and recognise the nice, normal MILs we never usually hear about.

Does anyone else have a lovely mother in law, or is it just me?

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saraclara · 12/08/2019 21:06

I adore my MIL. She's everything my mother has never been. She accepted me into the family from day 1. She's never interfered in our lives, and is just the most loving and accepting mother, MIL and grandmother. She would do anything for us and we're the most important people in her world.

I say is, even though she has very severe Alzheimer's now. She doesn't know who any of us are, and she can only babble like a baby. But I still love being with her, sitting with her, holding her hand, and being in this loving woman's presence.

JesusHRooseveltChrist · 12/08/2019 21:06

Mine is brilliant. We go out for lunch, she calls me up for a natter or just to see how I am, and nothing is ever too much of an ask. She's a real hoot, usually unintentionally. Makes the best pavlova. She can also push my buttons like nobody else much like her son!

KipperTheFrog · 12/08/2019 21:07

Bizarrely, my relationship with my MIL has improved since moving closer to her. We dont have to spend such long periods of time in eachothers houses so get on better with short visits.
She is a fantastic Nanna to my daughters, definitely cant fault her for that. She looks after them at the drop of a hat if we need it. But doesn't interfere with our wishes. She caters to DD2's allergies. Both DD's love her to bits.
Yes, she can be overbearing and she is not my kind of person to choose to socialise with. But things have improved and shes a damn sight better than some MIL's on here.

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SandunesAndRainclouds · 12/08/2019 21:09

My MIL held me together when DD had cancer. She got me through endless panic attacks, made dinners, gave poor FIL instructions on where to be and when and even made him hang the washing out with matching pegs because that’s how I do it... love them both.

ssd · 12/08/2019 21:09

So nice to read all these MIL stories. Dh got a lovely MIL, he was closer to my mum than he was to his own. I wasn't so lucky.
Hopefully I'll be a nice MIL one day.

Helenluvsrob · 12/08/2019 21:13

My MIL is so lovely. A Bril grandma and as I don’t have my mum anymore I’m glad I’ve had her in my life for 34yrs.

Scrumptelicious · 12/08/2019 21:27

My MIL is also just lovely.
Not intrusive, always there to help when needed (despite the distance). She is so thoughtful and a great grandmother.

joyfullittlehippo · 12/08/2019 21:30

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HotChocolateLover · 12/08/2019 21:33

Aww, my MIL is lovely. She’s just like my mum actually. She’s got a very kind and sweet nature, non judgmental, very funny and has helped us out loads. Great lady 👍

UnicornCat · 12/08/2019 21:35

I have a lovely MIL. Supportive and kind. Would never push her opinions on us in any way. In fact, when you want an opinion, it's really hard to get one out of her! She never wants to upset anyone. She's so nice ☺️

Oliack1417 · 12/08/2019 21:35

Me too, my MIL is lovely!

firstimemamma · 12/08/2019 21:37

My MIL-to-be is wonderful and I love her so much. She inspires me and is selfless. She is so kind and caring. Loving this positive thread.

Bornfreebutinbiscuits · 12/08/2019 21:37

I never understood these threads.
Op I think it's generally recognised that millions of amazing mils exists.
Those of us with life shattering mils, also have sisters, who have lovely mils we have mothers and brothers who are amazing mils to their dils. We have friends who have amazing mils and so on.

It's lovely that you've come to say yours is lovely, we don't usually come anywhere to off load about wondeful mils.

We come to off load about tricky, slightly annoying, or awful mils.

Anyway op, if I had wondeful Mil, non competitive, non judgmental etc I would spoil and treasure her.
My mils best friend is amazing woman, I wish with all my heart she was my Mil I'd worship her.

MegaClutterSlut · 12/08/2019 21:38

My mil is fab. I know how lucky I am to have a nice one after reading some of the threads on here. She tells me when pissed what a great dil I am and how much she loves me and couldn't wish for anyone better for dh

Lemon27 · 12/08/2019 21:40

I have a lovely mother in law, she’s a really capable type of person, always knows a way to help or sort a situation. She’s raised my DH amazingly well and he is a fantastic husband and dad.

I got on great with her until we bought a house and had DC, she’s a bit old fashioned in her thinking and ways and has annoyed me with some comments or actions in relation to these events.

However I can’t let that taint the fact she is overall a lovely person and I tend to forget she’s had a tough enough life herself and still does in a way, so I suppose I should not be so sensitive.

Hurrah for all the nice MIL’s!

DramaAlpaca · 12/08/2019 21:42

Mine is sadly no longer with us, but she was a nice woman. We had nothing in common except her son, but she tried her best & she never interfered.

Mummyshark2018 · 12/08/2019 21:43

I had a fab mil (imo) unfortunately she died a few years ago. She was not a very good mother though (even objectively). My dh and his dsis had a terrible time growing up but he loved seeing how she was with our dc so he could look past that. I'm a very fair person and gave her the benefit of the doubt and the relationship she had with my dc was fab. Just sorry she's no longer here to see her dgc grow up. My dc miss her a lot :-(

PixieLumos · 12/08/2019 21:43

I love my MIL. But my SIL can’t stand her and they’re currently not speaking - MIL really isn’t to blame in my opinion. That’s why I’m often suspicious of these MIL bashing threads.

BenWillbondsPants · 12/08/2019 21:47

Mine is batshit crazy sometimes, drives me mad. But I love her anyway.

DH had the most wonderful mother in law who treated him like a son (his words). We both miss her very much.

Milfromhades · 12/08/2019 21:48

Are you sure she is even a mother-in-law? Does she need a few tips from myself on keeping the standards up and ensuring you are doing right by her son, who you made off with, you wee hussy.
I see you are not ironing his drawers, preparing his lunch for tomorrow and smoothing his pillow as you should be at this hour; instead you are chattering away with other frivolous young women, all neglecting their poor dhs and the dgc. So selfish, just as I have always said .

FirstTimeToddlerMum · 12/08/2019 21:49

She's an angel.

There's a lot I couldn't do without her , she has my DS whenever needed , absolutely dotes on her grandkids and spoils them rotten, actually , she spoils us all rotten.

She's paid for us to go on holidays , helped us with our first home and was there holding my hand and stroking my hair when I was in hospital a few times with HG whilst I was pregnant and terrified and she treats my family like her own. I bloomin love that woman and wouldn't ever be able to thank her enough.

bananasandwicheseveryday · 12/08/2019 21:49

What a lovely thread. I hope that my DILs would be just as positive about our relationship as the posters on here have been.
I hope I've learnt how to be a good MIL from my own - by copying none of her behaviours and instead, doing the exact opposite.

feetlikeahobbit · 12/08/2019 21:53

Yes, mine is lovely if a bit detached.

She doesn't like to bother us and often walks to our house and leaves apple crumbles or cakes in the porch for us, never knocks on because we might be busy. I see her a lot because we work in the same place but opposite shifts. I had a DD when I met her son and she treats her as she does her other grandchildren, a lovely lady who brought up a lovely son who is now my DH :).

Drivenmad80 · 12/08/2019 21:53

I love my mil l. She's been more of a mum to me in the 10 years I've known her than my own mother ever has. She welcomed me into her family without question and is genuinely my rock 😍😍

Accountant222 · 12/08/2019 21:57

Mine was lovely, I miss her to this day, much better than the bitchy mother I had, who now has Alzheimer's and is quite sweet, strangely.

I don't get on with my daughter in law we are like chalk and cheese.

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