Aibu to be bloody fuming

[6demandingchildren]

It's a long one sorry but don't want to drip feed.

Im currently on holiday,

Mid June our son dil and 2 dgd came to live with us for 3 months while they saved so they could rent near us, 5 weeks later sons 2 bank cards went missing from his wallet that was in their bedroom, instead of looking for them they went and stayed with dil dad, they left most of their stuff at our house including furniture a rabbit and sons tool box , the tool box is huge and on wheels it's bigger than most chest of drawers.
We constantly asked son to move the rabbit as we are locking the house up while we are away (if they had not of moved out they would obviously still be there).
Our other son and dil live a few doors away and have the keys to the gates and the house as they are feeding the cats (and rabbit but we arranged this) today we get sent a picture from this son of other sons tool box in our lounge....
Even if he had asked we would of said no and he could of put it in the summer house (if he moved all his other belongings in there) or under the patio.
This is really annoying me, please tell me im over reacting while I pour another vodka.

Did they blame you for the loss of bank cards? Did they leave acrimoniously?

What is the relevance of the missing bank cards? And why did they move out?

No you're not overreacting. You're being taken for granted. I'd be tempted to take all the stuff over to where he is and leave it in the garden. Especially the tool box. DS is being a CF and shouldn't be allowed to get away with it.

They left because of the missing bank cards, but all other cards were still in his wallet including another bank card but we found out after this was a defunct card not in use. I pulled the house apart looking for them and even got my cleaner looking.

Im confused. So while you are on holiday, ds has moved the tool box from the room they were using to the living room?

If they're living with the other parents after an acrimonious departure, why are they coming into your home (esp when you are not there)?

Why was the bank card thing not just chalked up to 'lost' and get them replaced?

Reads like you’ve had enough vodka tbf.

Sharon?

OP you don't live behind a pub do you?

His tool box was under a cover in the drive way, the room they were using is ds 13's room, we moved the furniture out so he could have his room back, we put their stuff in the summer house and offered to lend them DH's van to move it all 2 weeks ago when they said they could do it, the didn't so all the stuff is still there.
And no not enough vodka yet as apparently I do stingy measures but that's another thread.

No I don't live behind a pub but the idea is appealing lol

Sorry but your post makes zero sense.

I think the best approach is more vodka.

Bugger

OP, assuming I've understood correctly, it sounds like you need to start asserting some boundaries with your CFS (cheeky fucker son). Do you ever say no to him? Do you let him know when you're upset with anything? What happens if you do? (No need to answer; just some questions to ponder.)

I think I would let him know that you'd like your home back how you like it and give him a date to do this by.

I'd also call him out on neglecting the rabbit - poor thing. You could offer to take it to the RSPCA. Again, I would give him a reasonable deadline after which you will deal with it.

Daughter is going to take the rabbit as husband arranged this earlier we just need a friend with a van as his hutch is huge, son knows he has crossed the line as he turned our home cameras off before moving the tool box, trust me if he has damaged my floor he will be paying for it.
More vodkas have been had and older son is dealing with the younger son with the tools.
Still live the bugger to bits but I don't have to put up with his shit.