A good friend died today...

[Keeoe]

She was suffering from cancer which had basically spread everywhere. I visited her for the last time on Friday, I didn't go yesterday as she had a few people lined up to go in. I said goodbye to her on Friday and let het know how much she was loved and cared about.

When I got the news today, my first feeling was one of absolute relief for her - she had been suffering terribly. I am of course desperately sad I'll never see her again, but, I feel thankful to have been her friend and such a sense of peace has come over me knowing she is no longer in pain. I knew the day was coming but I expected it to be very different to how it's actually been.

RIP friend.

Do you want to share any memories?

So sorry for you loss it sounds like she was very lucky to have you in her life. Sending love to you.

I'm so sorry

I’m sorry for your loss. 💐

Remember the good times and the laughs you had over the years

I'm so sorry. I will think of your friend tonight.

Thank you all for your kindness. She was such a character. She was so headstrong and had an absolute biting wit 😊 I think it was sheer bloody-mindedness that kept her going this long. One of the hospice nurses said this about her on Friday - "I think the grim reaper came for her last night but she told him to fuck off". It just sums her up perfectly. She was an absolute warrior, right to the end.

She sounds a character alright! It's hard saying goodbye and letting go of a loved one but my goodness, isn't it harder watching them suffer?

@Ribena - she certainly was that. I was not prepared for how quickly she went downhill. I have never seen someone die of cancer and I pray that I never will again. It's a wicked bastard of a disease.

It really is @Keeoe. It takes so many and with no discrimination.

Be kind to yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.

My dad had cancer a few years ago.. Thankfully a curable one, but seeing the toll that even that took on him was heartbreaking. It must be awful to watch someone you love go through it when you know there's no fix. Please don't feel bad for knowing she is at peace now, you were a great friend to her to the end ❤️

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Sympathies to you OP.
How old was she?
Hopefully you can think of her often, remember the times you shared and smile and laugh at old jokes.
I sometimes daydream about a friend of mine who I lost, we were very close as teenagers and sometimes I burst into laughter just walking down the road when I'm thinking of something funny that she once said or we did. I must look nuts to other, but It makes me so happy to relive.

So sorry about your friend xx

So sorry, she sounds such a character and so brave xx

So very sorry about your friend.

Thinking of you. RIP Friend.

Sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend to cancer a few years ago. We had been friends for over 30 years and I miss her still. Just know she is no longer suffering and that you were a comfort to her in her last days. My friend was only 40 and she left young children which was particularly hard for them. They are doing well now and I keep in regular touch.

For you and your friend and for memories.

@SuzieQ10 she was 49. I am smiling now, thinking about the last thing I did for her - I took her for a wee as she couldn't walk any more so needed help. I offered to get the nurse and she said "its alright, you can take me - I've had a wash today" 😁

I’m a recently retired oncology nurse. Cancer is a bastard disease. I had so many wonderful people as patients who went through so much and tried so hard for so long. I sometimes got so fucking angry at the sheer breathtaking cruelty of it. So privileged though to be alongside them all.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I also lost a very very good friend a couple of months ago, but I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye. I hope you find strength in the positive memories.

Sorry for the loss of your friend. She sounds amazing and funny and just the right level of trouble. 💐