Teenager

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My daughter is 16 and a half years old. Has had a part-time job during the summer. My problem is, she has broke up with her boyfriend off 3 years who adores her as she does him, she has recently started going out drinking and coming up sick from drink. It can be maybe once every 2 weeks. I have tried talking to her and explaining that I'm responsible for her wellbeing and am very concerned. Today I also discovered she is using a vape. I'm so saddened and feel I don't know what to do. She has been a great child up to now. Maybe I'm being over protective but advice needed as to what to do. I feel I'm losing her.

Anybody any advice

Do you think that taking her out for lunch might help? You can have a chat about what’s happening without the risk of too much drama as you’ll be in public.

The Teenager section on MN is usually very good OP. Ou morning might get a few more replies.

I have tried talking to her on a few occasions but she just sayes she doesn't want to talk about it. Today I found candoms in her bag. I'm sick to the pit of my tummy right now.

I don't have teenagers yet OP but can totally imagine this is very upsetting for you.
I suppose this is just something teenagers go through? You wouldn't expect her to end up with someone she dated from the age of 13 would you?
It's good she's taking precautions with the condoms - although I get that this must make you feel queasy.
Give her time & let her know you are there to chat if she needs to.
Try not to be judgmental & remember how it felt to be 16 & have your heart broken.
Good luck & hugs

My normally sensible teen went a little off grid at 16. Some of her friends wouldn’t have been my choice. It was a phase along with pink hair. Try to keep close . Obviously she shouldn’t be drinking and I would be quite strong about that. It happens but she needs to know it’s not acceptable. Hang in there.

Just seen condom update. Time for a chat.

Ok, so where were you when you tried to talk to her? Was it somewhere neutral?

Could you suggest taking her shopping and spend a bit of time together?

If she really doesn’t want to talk, just let her know you’re always there for her when she does want to.

If she’s 16, what’s she planning to do in September?

Went to kfc when I picked her up from work.
Doing 6th year in secondry school in September.

I'm ok with her splitting up with her boyfriend,however right up to the day before she broke up with him she had planned on booking a holiday for next year.
However my problem now is the condoms and what her intensions are or with who?
Don't want her throwing herself about.

If she's coming home drunk and has condoms, I think it may have gone past intention OP.