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Who pays for page boy outfit for wedding?

15 replies

Panda98 · 09/08/2019 12:56

Bil has asked our young son to be a page boy at his wedding? Who pays for the outfit? Do they pay if they pick the outfit? Just curious, thanks

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DappledThings · 09/08/2019 12:58

They should pay.

ilovewinterpansies · 09/08/2019 12:58

Bride and groom pay

Thistles24 · 09/08/2019 13:03

They should pay, but if they insist you do then you should be able to choose what he wears (within reason!) For example, DS had a lovely suit for one wedding, it cost about £15 from Tesco. The next wedding he went to, we hired a kilt, which cost £90. Both equally smart and appropriate for the occasion.

IAskTooManyQuestions · 09/08/2019 14:13

The bride and groom, usually.

Ask them

Pipandmum · 09/08/2019 14:15

I paid for it for my wedding.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/08/2019 14:17

They pay.

TerribleCustomerCervix · 09/08/2019 14:21

They pay for the suit at the very least.

I would offer to pay for the shoes if I knew dc would get more wear out of them afterwards, whether they were smart shoes or converse, but only if I could have a hand in choosing them.

Normandy144 · 09/08/2019 14:22

Bride and groom should pay. I would still double check though as you don't want to have a surprise awaiting you!

Henlie · 09/08/2019 14:24

They pay....same as having a bridesmaid/flower girl. They are asking your LO to be part of their wedding party, so it’s up to them to sort and pay for outfit.

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/08/2019 14:26

After reading previous posts on here I would check with BIL

Nottobesoldseparately · 09/08/2019 15:02

The bride and groom should pay, but each happy couple seem to have their own ideas about where they can save money and get relatives to pay.

SarahAndQuack · 09/08/2019 15:33

I'd expect to offer to pay (as bride/groom) and for them to say 'oh, no, of course not, unless you want something specific?'. Then I'd pay if I wanted something more than a basic suit/something a child that age is liable to own.

I'd expect to offer to pay as parent, and for bride/groom to say 'oh, no, we'll pay, unless you happen to have a smart outfit he already owns that you think would work?' Etc.

Just obvious really. Wouldn't get into any of the 'you should do this' stuff, just have a conversation about it.

DappledThings · 09/08/2019 15:42

I'd expect to offer to pay (as bride/groom) and for them to say 'oh, no, of course not, unless you want something specific?

I would expect that if they want a pageboy then a specific outfit is exactly what they want and should be paying for. It wouldn't occur to me that they wanted to call someone a pageboy/flower girl/bridesmaid/usher or anything else and not have them dressed as part of the wedding party. So it wouldn't cross my mind to offer to pay if I were the parents.

SarahAndQuack · 09/08/2019 15:49

Oh, that's interesting. Round where I am a page boy/flower girl is usually a little kid, maybe 3-5, and obviously it's more of a compromise about what they wear! You might have a go at matching the rest of the wedding party but usually something smart is enough, with a little nod to wedding colours.

DappledThings · 09/08/2019 16:34

Fair enough Sarah. I think this is where a lot of bad feeling comes in when people have different expectations of what something means. I'd expect a pageboy/flowergirl to be about 3-5 too but still in a specific outfit. Probably a sailor type thing for a boy and a white dress with sash matching older bridesmaids for a girl. I suspect I'm terribly out of touch though!

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