Auntie or not?

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My DPs sister is about to have a C-section. I've been with DP for a number of years and we have his DC 50/50. We are not married and in fact although separated he is still married to DSC mum.

All other family members are either blood or married into the family.

I've bought a card and hand quilted a blanket for baby. Obviously DP will be uncle but would I be auntie even though we're not married? I'm probably overthinking this..

In most families yes but it's up to the parents.

I guess you're right. I'll let them take the lead. I just wasn't sure how to sign the card.

I’ve got 2 nephews and 2 nieces and they have never called me auntie, they use my name. Saying auntie isn’t really the done thing for most is it?

Just sign the card with your name

DSC call DPs siblings Auntie and Uncle so I guess in this family it is the done thing.

Legally no, courtesy title yes.

Aunt and uncle are really out of favour these day, neither DH or I use it (for our very elderly but sprightly 80 something uncles) .

The only person that does use it is my oldest freinds 30yo daughter and I swear she does it to annoy me !

You either use the title for both of you or neither. It's odd to have one without the other

Surely the card is for SIL and bil rather than for baby? Just sign your name. Dp and I aren't married, I'm auntie FFS.

You would be an auntie in my eyes just take the parents lead though x

I find it odd when people don’t use aunt / uncle. I’m of Indian origin and every Indian person I meet of a similar age to my parents is aunt / uncle or sir/ madam (if a work setting), and I take their lead if I shouldn’t use it. We have different words for related aunts and uncles depending on how they are related to you, but it’s considered really rude to not use them. My Irish friends are the same & would probably get ostricised if they referred to their actual aunts and uncles by their names.

I had no idea Aunt and Uncle were falling out of use. We are Aunt and Uncle to our niece and nephews (all under 4) and vice versa.

Surely the card is for SIL and bil rather than for baby? Just sign your name.

This.

Address the card and the present to the parents and take your lead from them. I don’t think I had any presents addressed to my babies-they were all to me!