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Anyone else had PND? Does it make me a bit of a crap mum?

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pinkcardi · 06/08/2019 20:19

I'd be interested in opinions from anyone who has had PND.

I had it, severely, with my first DC. I had suicide attempts, some half hearted, one serious. I had medication and weekly counselling, special HV etc. I tried to run away several times etc etc

When I watched the Louis Theroux programme about the mother and baby unit I was shocked that I was at the same level of illness as the women in there. I don't know how I didn't end up in a unit, I probably should have been.

So, to my question. I don't think I'm a very good mum. I say this impartially and after much reflection. I lose my temper quickly, I have minimal patience. I need time away/alone from the kids. I don't hugely enjoying playing with them.

Sure, I do all the expected things but my heart isn't 100% in it. I love them, care for them, worry about them. But I know that I'm not a very good parent when I compare to friends, or to my DH.

Do you think this is because of PND, that it still had a shadow on me/my parenting today, or is this just me as a person; doing my best but not really a 'natural' mother?

Thank you for reading and any thoughts!

OP posts:
MIdgebabe · 06/08/2019 20:29

WHy does your heart not being 100% matter? You love and care for them. That’s enough.

You need time away and some aspects of childcare are crap. Yeah, normal.

Don’t compare yourself to others. How do you know what is really in their hearts and what they really do when no one is ther?

MIdgebabe · 06/08/2019 20:35

AND actually I think people are often better mums if they spend some time away from their children.

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