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DH assaulted at work today

31 replies

namechangedforthis19 · 05/08/2019 19:44

Hopefully my name change has worked.

DH was assaulted by a 14 year old boy today. He works for the LA, and was doing his normal job when he asked a bunch of kids to pick up some litter. One of the gang squirted his drink at his face, so DH, perhaps wrongly, squirted some water back at the boys feet. This prompted the boy to square up to him, spit in his face and call him a c*nt. Luckily his workmates saw what was happening and came over and the boy ran off.

A few minutes later, the police turned up as a couple had witnessed the incident and called them. Apparently the boy had also called them and accused of DH groping him and grabbing his penis. DH says he did not do this and I absolutely believe him. The incident may have been caught on CCTV.

DH is obviously very worried as to what might happen next. From what the police said when they spoke to DH, the boy is a known local troublemaker, but he can’t help thinking what if the CCTV didn’t capture the incident and somehow the boy is believed.

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HappyHammy · 05/08/2019 19:47

How horrible. Your dh has witnessed to what happened.

SouthWestmom · 05/08/2019 19:47

Not much he can do except wait for the investigation by the police and probably the LA to carry on. Just be honest and avoid embellishing.

Have to say it was a bit daft to squirt the kid especially as they are all into their labels (trainers). Does he not interact often with the kids?

SouthWestmom · 05/08/2019 19:47

Not much he can do except wait for the investigation by the police and probably the LA to carry on. Just be honest and avoid embellishing.

Have to say it was a bit daft to squirt the kid especially as they are all into their labels (trainers). Does he not interact often with the kids?

hidinginthenightgarden · 05/08/2019 19:49

They have to have proof before they can convict him. Your DH has a number of credible witnesses and this kid is a known troublemaker so not credible at all.
It is easier said than done, but try not to worry too much.

MyDcAreMarvel · 05/08/2019 19:51

Wh year did he squirt the boy, that was really stupid.

saraclara · 05/08/2019 19:53

Why did the random couple call the police?

Scabetty · 05/08/2019 19:58

Noeuf, of course OP’s dh has only himself to blame. In his job he should accept being squirted in the face and know his place. He should just have picked up the litter himself. 🙄

Soola · 05/08/2019 19:59

So sorry op that you and your husband are under such stress because of this lying scumbag.

Years ago your husband or the police would have clipped him round the ear and then his father would have given him a boot up the arse if the police hadn’t told him that his son was playing up.

Sadly, we no longer live in those times and the scrote knows this, hence him being cocky enough to fabricate such a nasty incident against your husband.

Your husband must remain consistent with his version of events and hopefully no action will be taken.

By coincidence this appeared in a group I’m in on Facebook-

Soola · 05/08/2019 20:00

Had not hadn’t

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namechangedforthis19 · 05/08/2019 20:10

Thanks all. DH knows he was stupid to squirt water at him, but in the heat of the moment I think he just lost his cool. Hoping cctv will prove the boy is lying.

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HappyHammy · 05/08/2019 20:11

If he is accusing him of touching him sexually wont there be evidence, DNA or something on his clothes.

Runkle · 05/08/2019 20:14

Soola why have you reacted with a 'Haha' to that post?

Soola · 05/08/2019 20:19

@Runkle Because the group is a humorous one about adverts and I’ve ha ha’s at their posting it!

The original post is an ad that someone has posted on Facebook marketplace.

Runkle · 05/08/2019 20:20

Ahh OK 👍🏻

Skittlenommer · 05/08/2019 20:22

You DH escalated that situation. I’m faced with very volatile situations like this on a regular basis and this is not the way to handle it. The kid sounds like an idiot and hopefully it’s been caught on CCTV and will go no further.

It could have been prevented by walking away.

growlingbear · 05/08/2019 20:22

Your DH could scare him by threatening to take him to court for slander and defamation of his good character due to the lies he's telling about the assault.

Tattybogle89 · 05/08/2019 20:26

HOW scary. They are shameless these days unfortunately. Hope cctv comes up trumps

VenusTiger · 05/08/2019 20:27

@Skittlenommer if only it could have been prevented the way it was in our day...
No deterrent means more bad behaviour.
OP, after the investigation, as PP has suggested, your DH should get legal advice on how to settle the character defamation against him, as it’ll likely go on his work file!

mummywingingit · 05/08/2019 20:43

What is LA?

peanutbear · 05/08/2019 20:44

I believe spitting is assault so on this occasion I would want to press charges.

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namechangedforthis19 · 05/08/2019 20:47

LA - local authority. Don't want to be too specific about his actual job as it could be outing.

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SouthWestmom · 05/08/2019 20:48

Scabetty erm ok that's not what I said. I'm sure there were better options than lowering himself to the same level. And I assumed he would know them if he worked with the kids.

FlibbertyGiblets · 05/08/2019 20:48

LA is local authority. Maybe a park keeper type worker.

I hope this is a nothing type incident OP. Your husband won't retaliate again, he should have had training in de escalation and what not.

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namechangedforthis19 · 05/08/2019 20:57

I though spitting was assault too peanutbear. It certainly is if you spit at a police officer.

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Nicknacky · 05/08/2019 20:58

Spitting on someone is assault.