Misophonia in DD

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Any tips or help really appreciated.
Dd is nearly 7 and a very sensitive girl but happy and no additional needs either.
She hates the sound and sight of others eating, especially me and her dad.
I am trying to accommodate it by eating elsewhere while she eats with her siblings (which she's ok about) but wonder if I'm pandering to it. I want to be sensitive to her but also to tackle the issue.
Any ideas gratefully received!

We have the same situation. As far as i know there is no clear solution so we arrange things so that music is on when we eat, or eat separately.

We have ear defenders and sometimes tv on, but neither is infallible

You can minimise the impact on her (and you), but it's unlikely to ever completely resolve.

I listen to ASMR videos when I'm struggling with noise. Might be worth a try, she can have earphones in and try to find a level so it is soothing but she can also hear conversation.

Try not to take it personally. It's a little understood condition but it's common that the offending noise relates to to a loved one. It's not you (or daughter), it's the condition.

I have misophonia, although my trigger is not eating sounds. I get absolute I'll-rip-your-fucking-head-off rage but I gather other people have other responses.

I essentially carry around headphones everywhere and put music on when I need to.

What also helps is being less stressed. If I hear my trigger-sound when I'm stressed, I really struggle. If I'm not stressed, I can deal with it much better.

What's also really helped us telling people about it (in advance). I can't talk about it at the time because I'm trying not to rip your fucking head off... But by telling people in advance, I can just say 'please dont' if it comes up and they understand/dont require an explanation I can't articulate in the moment. My family, friends and colleagues have all been very good (whilst obviously thinking I'm batshit which is fair enough). Public places are hard work though, especially if I can't move away.

And at least people have often heard of misophonia now; before people thought I was unreasonable and batshit. Now I'm just batshit

It's hard and it's completely ridiculous but being open about it has made it so much easier. Somehow I can cope better knowing its known - I'm able to detach more.

It's not a case of pandering, we (definitely me) can't help our reaction. It's a funny thing to have but it's not much fun!

I had a holiday last year where I didn't hear my trigger for 10 days. I didn't realise til I came back how 'braced to deal with it' I feel every day.

I have misophonia and the sound of people eating is unbearable. I was in the library last week trying to write an essay when a guy came in, opened a sandwich and started making more noise than I thought possible with it. He was eating it really leisurely as well, a bite every few minutes so it dragged on and on.

I could hear it even with my fingers in my ears and I had tears in my eyes I was so angry and upset about it

@DisplayPurposesOnly. This is us, my daughter is14, high functioning autistic and issues around food are just soooo hard.

I have things thrown at me if I eat near her. She gets angry as though I'm eating noisily on purpose.

At least we have a name for it.

She now chooses to eat alone in her room, but I feel she misses out even more on social time (she struggles with this too).

No clear answers. We do encourage her to come and sit at the table and serve herself before leaving to eat.

I’m the same and my she doesn’t get it. He’ll often casually sit next to me and open a bag of crisps which just makes me find an excuse to move away.

I have it and eating is one of my triggers, DH especially. I can't be around anyone audibly eating, including myself (it's so much worse while I'm pregnant and I've had to cut out some foods because the sound of eating them is so bad).

My hearing is generally shit, unless it's a trigger sound then I hear everything. We have work arounds at home like having the tv/music on or me not being in the same room as dh. Elsewhere I rely on headphones. Could you leave the radio on near your DD? Or sit her so you're not in her line of sight while eating (eg. At the same table but she's looking at/closer to siblings)?

It's awful to be triggered by a loved one too, the feeling of sheer rage mixed with guilt is horrible.