I need to share, Im so happy

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My adult son has just landed a fabulous, well paying job in an area he is happiest in.
15 months ago his mental health crashed, he was hospitalized, suicidal. He suffers from really bad anxiety and depression his father used to abuse him and had been drinking to dull the pain. He had gotten arrested twice in the space of a week then finally got a DUI. It was the year from hell. He has stopped drinking, gotten mental health help. Passed a professional qualification exam and really turned his life around.
I had been watching him circling the drain for 2 years or so before this happened. The state he lives in has an opiod problem so he couldnt access help as he wasnt a junkie or a danger to himself. When he finally became a danger, he got access to all kinds of help. He grabbed it with both hands. I could have gotten him a lawyer and gotten the DUI cancelled , he didnt want to do that as he actually did drive over the limit and felt pleading not guilty due to MH issues was not right. He owned it and accepted full responsibility.
I am so very proud of what he has accomplished in the last 15 months
Yes he did a terrible thing and yes he is very lucky no one was maimed or killed because of it but that doesnt stop me feeling so very very proud of him.
I just wanted to share.

As someone who has lost everything to bad mental health that is totally amazing.

I'm so, so pleased for your son and hope he flourishes in the role.

I have a male friend who is really struggling with his mental health at the moment and I really wish there was more I could do; he likes gardening so I have given him free rein to come and do some gardening at my house as I've got one and he's in a flat.

I wish every good thing for your son.

That's lovely. Pleased for you both.

That’s wonderful news! You must be so proud. It’s lovely to read some happy news on here for once! 💐

That's so brilliant, you have every reason to be proud op

Fantastic. Lovely to hear such a positive story - thanks for sharing.

Excellent! He's come through and is now a credit to himself and to you.

Lovely, best of luck to you both

Excellent news. Well done your son and all the very best to his proud mum.

I'm so happy to read this, fantastic and I can really understand your joy. So great

It's lovely to hear such an uplifting story.
If someone had predicted it all last year. You'd have probably screamed in their face and said.
"Don't give me or rather my son false hope."
It just goes to show no matter how much in despair someone may be feeling. The light at the end of tunnel will be there.

What a wonderful post to read! Your pride and your love for him shine through and both are well deserved. I’m so pleased he’s turned his life around, that takes guts on a massive scale. I’m also going to take a quiet moment to acknowledge the support I bet you have been providing, the worry you’ve experienced, the brave face you’ve put on and the terror you’ve buried deep. You did well too mama. Love to you both

Thank you all so much. I could bust with happiness.
My son is a wonderful human being. I had no idea the extent of his mental problems and drinking until this happened. I also had no idea how badly he had been affected by his father. I knew there were issues on both fronts but not the extent of them. He has been my biggest worry for years, I never knew what he was gonna be messing up next. He kept an apartment and a full time job though so I honestly had no clue.
He was always happy and full of plans when you talked to him, none of these plans ever worked in his favor though. We used to tease him about his lack of good luck.
When it all hit the fan and I ended up in the emergency room with my beautiful precious first born a sobbing shaking disaster area I didnt know what to do.
My husband ( not his dad) and I just decided to support him no matter what. Dh said first thing, get him home, bring him home till hes well, we will support him. Thats when we discovered we couldnt cos he would lose any mental health services as we are in another state. Then we discovered how expensive it was to Uber from his house to his job, it would have been a fraction of the cost to move him nearer his work and pay higher rent. Couldnt do that either.
Thank god for credit cards is all I can say. I will be paying this off for YEARS and you know what I dont care, id have given anything to help him.
Once he got help and was able to access the services, he really did embrace it, he didint want to be how he was. He lucked out with a good counselor who helped and guided him a lot. He stopped drinking, dropped a load of "friends" who really were not good for him and studied for and sat a professional exam hed failed a couple of years ago. I used to go up every week and drive him for his groceries, to the laundromat ar any other chores he needed driving to.
I am so happy for him, this could have worked out so different and to be honest ( though Ill never say this to him) my heart still skips a beat when he calls as it was always some problem or trouble before.
Im hoping this is a turning point.
I know how tough it is to stay on the straight and narrow and hadnt expected this to go so smoothly.
Have I mentioned how happy I am for him

That’s fantastic,congratulations to your DS!