Should I stick the screaming out at bedtime?

[a5m5y]

My LO used to fall asleep downstairs and we would carry him up to his cot (in his own room). He is 9 months old.
But now we are trying to put him to sleep in his cot first as last, as he is getting older. Only he screams and screams- I know this is totally our doing, but my question is should we just ride out the screaming? I feel so cruel even though I know it's just through temper
Many thanks x

Blimey OP, you were quick to post then delete your account then re-register and repost!!

Lol I will be deleting again shortly. I just felt I should say thank you to those who took the time to give constructive advice. First time on a forum, it took me longer to find out how to start a thread than to re-register yes, but this isn't the place for me. My nerves are too bad for it.

What a lot of harsh judgement on a fairly new parent just asking for advice!!

OP, what you want to achieve is fine, but you may be going too fast for your baby. Slow down. Begin doing more of the bedtime routine upstairs. Ours was bath, bottle and bed at that age. Stay with your child or potter about nearby while they fall asleep. Practice gradual withdrawal over a longish period of time that way. If they really do become distressed then you do have to pick them up and soothe them.

The sort of screaming and screaming you describe from a nine month old is much more likely to be distress at the sudden change in routine. Go more slowly. You will get there.

Oh, and anyone saying 9 month olds do not have tempers is talking utter drivel. Mine certainly did. All three of them.

Don't delete your account because of a few judgemental idiots. Sadly, you do get bitches who like to stick the knife in on here when someone is down. Developing the hide if a rhino soon shakes them off, especially when the more measured responses begin to come.

Don't worry, OP. I agree that a more gradual approach will probably work better but you're doing nothing wrong in trying to work on your baby's bedtime routine now. Honestly, I bought into the whole "you need to be completely child-led about bedtime, they're only little for such a short time, they'll eventually grow out of needing to be cuddled and rocked to sleep by themselves" approach. I now have a 3.5 year old who will still only fall asleep on me, being rocked, and co-sleeps at a diagonal across my bed so that I don't have any space myself. This is actually progress after months of work on bedtime because, up until a few weeks ago, she would only fall asleep downstairs on me and I'd have to carry her upstairs. I wish I'd realised that it's a damn sight easier to introduce good bedtime routines with a baby who can't keep running out of the room or arguing with you!