Feeling embarrassed. I have no friends

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I literally have zero friends. I have people that I refer to as friends, but really - they aren’t. I hardly ever see them, I have to initiate contact and if I’ve got stuff going on or I’m really upset I sit there and I think “I don’t actually have a single person that I can go to with this”

I’m SO lonely. Major relationship issues. I’m just alone all the time with the baby and my older kids during the time they are with me and not their dad.

I don’t have a clue how to rectify this.

I have no hobbies, no job, I’m just here, in this bloody house counting the hours all the time.

I don’t know what I even expect anyone to say really. But I needed to tell “someone”

@TeachesOfPeaches I have a difficult set up due to court ordered contact with my older children, my ex is a horrible man but was awarded 50:50 contact, one week on, one week off....so I need to be able to do school runs and see my children on one week, and then the other it’s just me and the baby. Either way, to pay for childcare would make working pointless (I’m not qualified to do anything, min wage jobs are my only real option) and I have no friends or family to help.

@froot I’m not at all far from Cheshunt (in fact I went to Brookfield Tesco tonight just to literally get out of the house ) if you have any info on groups in that area I’d love to hear it

@Jenu294 I’m not religious, although I do get the parish magazine through the door of my village and there does seem to be a lot on for those that are, maybe I will look in to it. There is a new “death cafe” meet up which is interesting I suppose if nothing else 🤐

I do suffer with depression. I’ve recently started some tablets after going to the doctor but they are the same tablets given to dementia patients to help them sleep....I struggle in the mornings when I take them

My older 2 are at school. I’ve never made friends there really. It’s a tiny village school, the “young mums” have their groups and I’m not a apart of them and the older mums I don’t have anything in common with, we are friendly, we chat, but nothing more than that. I have tried, and failed I guess to turn it into more.

I do have a partner, however things aren’t great and whilst I fully support him unfortunately I don’t receive the same level back.

Honestly sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles sometimes - just remember that just because you haven't clicked with anyone right now doesn't determine who you are, or that you'll never have something in common with someone ever again.

Just keep doing what you're doing - be polite, smile...chat if you want too. Don't put any pressure on yourself.

As for being religious - visiting a church doesn't even require you to be a believer. It's a Christian's duty (out of their faith through Christ) to reach out to those in help or need. You can seek out anyone in church for counsel, a shoulder to cry on, a cup of tea etc. It has nothing to do with "religion" or if you're religious or not so don't let that put you off.

I've suffered from depression myself. It's a difficult journey. But it does sound like you need to get some counselling - can your doctor lead you in the right direction?