What kind of parent are you?

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Would you class yourself as strict/relaxed/uptight etc? And what are your red-lines about things?

I think about this a lot. I think I veer between quite relaxed about some things (eating at the table, mess etc), to uptight about rudeness, backchat etc.

Interested to know how other people define themselves as parents.

I reckon we all have things that we are strict about and other things we are lax about.
Some things we wouldn't even think to list, as they are so deeply entrenched in the "non-negotiable" in our minds.

Over the years I've seen all sort of things that people do (or don't do) on MN, that would never have occurred to me as 'a thing' in the first place.

I think I'm loving easygoing, my children are in their late teens and they still want to go out with me and tell me things

I think I’m strict. I’m ultra loving, tactile, tell them I love them a lot but strict

I’m strict on manners and eating nicely, saying please & thank you etc.

Lax on everything else I think! And quite laid back with dd. I like it when we’re laughing rather than me nagging her.

A crap one apparently. Not having a great time of parenting right now.

Generally I think I'm quite relaxed about most things but strict on manners/morals.

I am really kind, but I have high expectations of kindness back. So far so good. I know I am very generous with every resource that I have, time, money, attention. My guys have rewarded me back tenfold. But they are older, it can be hard when the children are small, for sure.

My three are young adults now. I think they'd agree that I was relaxed most of the time, but they always knew the boundaries. I would put my foot down when necessary & I absolutely would not tolerate unkindness, rudeness or bad manners. The most important thing for me is that my DC feel loved & secure.

Laidback. Benevolent neglect works well for me