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Do these sound like red flags ?

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French189 · 02/08/2019 08:57

He wasn't someone who boasted about himself, he had a range of hobbies and a group of mates who he had known for a while so that was good.

However, he said that he didn't like Muslims, that 'jobs in Britain should only be for British people'. Made a joke about a child in my workplace being radicalised.

He admitted himself that he 'was good at making people feel bad' and 'used to be very good at falling out with people, but has improved'.

Very occasionally takes cocaïne and says he 'used to be very bad on it'. In late 20s and gets sloshed every weekend, sometimes twice per week.

Said himself he is a 'bad son' and doesn't see his parents much even though they live 2 miles away. Admits he has gotten into fights because he has mouthed off at people.

Another car driver beeped at him and he said 'shut up you cunt'.

Referred to me as 'mate' once or twice. Would make fun of my facial expressions and called me a cheapskate because I said I found my mate's hen do expensive (200 quid for 1 night) even though I bought him dinner several times and bought him a couple of things.

Then we would go out to a restaurant and he would say "oh, is that because it's the cheapest thing on the menu ?" if I ordered the soup. And he would say I was clumsy and had a crap memory. I genuinely dont mind having a laugh and some teasing, as long as it's teamed with some kind comments.
He gave me a couple of compliments on my clothes and my looks but never said anything really sweet about me/me and him or spending time with me.

Told him 2 of my Spanish friends were applying for citizenship in the UK and that it was quite pricey and difficult, and he told me 'well that's what you get for free NHS etc.'

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Illberidingshotgun · 02/08/2019 11:37

So, he's racist, takes drugs, drinks too much (based on what you say), argumentative, gets into fights, sees little of local family, makes fun of you and says things to you that you find upsetting.

Does he have any good points at all?? Get rid of him, OP, and don't waste a second more of your time on him.

French189 · 02/08/2019 12:11

Thank you for the replies, I really appreciate people being straightforward and telling me how it is. It's silly because, if this were my friend telling me this about a guy I would be telling her to run, so I don't know why I didn't do the same earlier on.

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Willow2017 · 02/08/2019 12:20

Good call ok.
There doesn't seem yo.be one nce thing you can say about him.
He sounds utterly vile you can do much better and no bf is better than him.

French189 · 02/08/2019 13:59

Thank you, you are right x

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