Child maintenance with an arsehole ex

[Rickandportly]

Does anyone else have an ex who holds what ‘they pay’ over them?

My ex h is telling teenage DS that I lie and that I should be giving him the money he gives me every month.

I’ve explained Ds that the money goes towards bills, petrol to ferry him around, rent. Food, school uniform. School trips.

If ds was to take the money and pay his share it would come to a hell of a lot more.

He’s being doing this for years and I feel like telling him to shove his money up his arse.
I’d rather struggle than have it held over me.

Also, he said if we went down the cms route he would go to court to get Ds to live abroad with him. In my head I know it’s abs empty threat and that ds was happy and settled with me. But Ds was only 6 years old at the time and I wanted to settle with as little disruption to him as possible. Ex had everything and I moved out with Ds and the clothes on our backs. Yes, stupid. But all I wanted was for Ds to be happy and not be dragged through a bitter divorce.

Yep, my ex h, often tells 14yr old dd that the money he gives me is for her clothes whenever she wants, that includes designer brands. Not sure how that works as i only get £51.00 a week. Quite often she throws it up at me. I tell her it pays her living costs, clothes, food etc.
And wait for this, he often asks for it back to take her out, bloody cheek.

pink Wow. Just wow. A whole other level of shitty.