Should we move?

[ShimmeryShiny]

Myself, my DH and kids live up North where I'm from. We are all quite happy here.
My DH is from the South so most of his good friends and family are there.
We get to see them but obviously not as much.
I have my sibling here and a few other family members who is see but not very often. I am very close to my sibling and do have some good friends here.
My youngest is starting school in September. My eldest will be going into year 3.
Sometimes I think that it would be easier to be near my husbands family as the kids could see their grandma a lot more and their cousins however moving to the other end of the country will be a massive move.
Maybe if we were there all the time it wouldn't be that great? Maybe the novelty would wear off?

My brother and sister in live up north and would like to move down here but they simply can’t afford to. The house prices are wild here in the south east and their house would probably only get them a small flat.

Have you looked at the cost of housing? What could you buy for your money? How much time does your MIL spend with the other cousins? They may not be meeting up as often as you think.

It is more expensive but we could afford to live in the location.
MIL spends a lot of time with other cousins

Do you want to be full on involved in IL's life? If so, go for it.

But would you then not feel that you and your dc are missing out on the relationship with your sibling and your good friends?
Would you be swapping one set of difficulties for another?

Ultimately it must depend on job security.

But would you then not feel that you and your dc are missing out on the relationship with your sibling and your good friends?
Would you be swapping one set of difficulties for another?

I think ultimately yes so it might not be worth it as I wouldn't see sibling as much.

We moved halfway between families which was great but still had over an hours commute to see both. We then took the plunge and moved to DH families town in Wales (I'm originally from near London) it is very hard not seeing my family every week as I'm very close to my parents, they also helped with child care now and again. I've just started to make new mum friends which has been slow to start.......
Being close to DH family now is great, our DC has got grandparents, aunts uncles, cousins, kids next door. along with a great school and lots to do in the surrounding area. Although I miss my family we keep in touch and see each other as often as possible.
I suppose you have to think of the financial cost of moving from north to south (it's not cheap at all!) you mentioned you could afford property prices in South which is good. Would the kids have more family and friends if they moved? Good schools, things to do etc? I guess you have to weigh up the pros and cons.
I dug in my heels about moving but I'm quite glad we did now. Best of luck

It's Somerset. I drive so can get about. There's plenty to do but will be a big change and would probably take a long time to settle. I wouldn't see my side of the family much as it's such a long way and I'd have to make a real effort but my parents aren't around anymore but I am close to my sibling. I will have to weigh up all the pros and cons. Thank you.

“We are all quite happy here.”
I wouldn’t move my family in this situation. You are betting you will all be even happier? Best wishes whatever you decide.