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Totally overwhelmed and feel like I’m losing it, please come and talk to me

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JohnnyOla · 31/07/2019 20:47

Hi

I’ve hit my limit today. Dh has D&V and I have a huge fear of vomit so it’s been horrid. Also I suffer from fibromyalgia so I’ve been having to do things that cause me pain today as he is out of action (emptying dishwasher etc).

I’m constantly struggling in my mind with anxiety and depression. My grandparents both died in the last year and it was awful, my grandma was dying for months and I’m NC with most of the family due to the abuse I went through as a child and they didn’t want me to visit her. I didn’t feel I could attend either of their funerals. It was an awful time.

On top of the above we organised a v expensive day out for my 40th next week. For months I’ve been feeling anxious about the cost of it- we can afford it but it’s the sort of day out that will be easily ruined by bad weather. And now we have D&V in the house!! So I’m sensing doom is ahead. I’ve been so excited for this trip for months and I’ll feel crushed if we can’t go.

I’ve been feeling so tense and irritable this evening that I want to self harm or scream. I have no suicidal feelings so don’t think that- I’m just desperate to relieve the tension I feel, life is always so hard.

Lastly I’m terrified that I’m an awful parent because I struggle so much in my head and I worry that sometimes I’m a bit short and irritated with ds- who can be v full on.

Oh god help

OP posts:
JontyDoggle37 · 31/07/2019 20:50

Coping is enough. And you are coping. Get through today, and then tomorrow and then the day after. Find out if you can reschedule the expensive event again. Get a cuppa, cuddle your DS and give yourself a break - you’re doing brilliantly!

Milkywayfan · 31/07/2019 20:52

OP didn’t want to read and run. Not sure I have much useful to say except that things sound really tough and D&V is horrible - so you wouldn’t be human unless you were feeling down! And doesn’t mean things won’t get better eventually. And getting irritated with kids doesn’t mean you are a crap mum; means you are a normal mum like the rest of usSmile. Hopefully someone will be along shortly with more useful stuff. For now an unmumsnetty hug

Wearenotyourkind · 31/07/2019 21:16

Hi @JohnnyOla do you have any normal coping strategies that you can use? Any distractions? Going for a walk or run, favourite music or smell, bath, favourite hobby, mindless TV? Or any friends who can support you IRL? You could also try the Samaritans (116 123). Hang in there. You're worth it.

JohnnyOla · 31/07/2019 21:20

@wearenotyourkind I’m just going to watch some relaxation videos on YouTube. To be honest though I’m so sick of holding on for life to get better. I’ve been holding on for 40 years.

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Wearenotyourkind · 31/07/2019 21:49

Do you have any support? Either family, friends or formal support, like counselling?

JohnnyOla · 31/07/2019 22:35

I have dh and my friend who is on hol at the moment. We are quite isolated. We are both pretty shy too. I’ve finished a spate of counselling for the moment.

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Wearenotyourkind · 02/08/2019 20:53

How are you doing?

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