I'd like someone to think of me. That's all.

[ssd]

Sick of thinking of others and never getting it back.

Anything in particular upsetting you OP?

Tea time and food. Shopping for everyone. Cooking for everyone. Trying to save money. Dh buying expensive stuff and not bothering to get anything the house needs, just what he wants. So now I need to go out when I can't be bothered, even though he went to the shops earlier, for food he wanted.
Am just fed up, scrimping, saving, doing everything alone.

I dont want to be harsh; dont tell us, tell him.
If he is such a selfish fuck, how have I not brought this up.
Dont sit o the resentment, it is doing u no benefits and nothing is changing.
Get in there now and tell him very politely but firmly how u feel.
Not as a total take down, just say how it is affecting you and the way it makes y see your position in the family.

Yes, well that would annoy anyone. Is he the kind of man who will listen to your legitimate concerns and support you in change?

Do you work ? Or are you dependent on him for money ?

We've talked before. He didn't cook for ages now that he cooks its like I should be grateful. I need to be more selfish. Being the carer for the family is wearing thin but it's been so long I don't know anything else.

I work. It's not money. I just don't naturally put myself first and he does.

Order yourself a book, bottle of wine and bubble bath and lock yourself away in the bathroom tomorrow. Then order yourself a takeaway, put headphones in and watch Netflix.
Be selfish, you’re important too!

Is an online shop possible? It wouldn’t solve the problem of your DH spending extra money but it’s good for meal planning and making sure there’s always something in.

Sorry if that isn’t possible for you, just trying to think practically, I’d be taking myself off out to do something I like regularly if I felt under appreciated and ground down by the daily boredom.

Well, I'm thinking about you right at this moment!

What sort of stuff does DH buy? Life can feel like a daily grind at times, but he needs to listen to you and work together as a team

That's a good idea! I bought myself a couple of nice things from the Body Shop last night.
I'm not a total wet drip, but it's hard being thoughtless when you're not used to it.

Yeah the being grateful thing will wear thin. Time for another serious talk. Be clear about how unhappy you feel and that you are unwilling to maintain things as they are. Hopefully he will want you to be happier. Good luck.

There's plenty food in but if he fancies something else he pops to the Co op where it's twice the price of Aldi, where I normally go.
It just annoys me, I really scrimp and save but it feels like I'm the only one who does.
I'm just fed up and feeling lonely.

He's a man, they think about what they want. You're a woman, we think what is best for all. Be more boy, and tell him no ta to be so selfish.
(Yes I know, not all men etc)
Sending you a hug. Hope you have a friend to go for a coffee with.

Aww thanks. I appreciate that.