Just musing - I find it interesting that so many posters, with probably the best will in the world, jump to conclusions about an OP’s situation without knowing the full picture.
For example, years ago, when I was teaching students to weigh up all the evidence, I once told them my son couldn’t walk, talk or feed himself. Half the group got the point and laughed (DS was 3 months old) but half looked shocked and concerned and were obviously imagining a severely disabled older child.
Similarly, it is a fact that DH took £12,000 from my bank account this morning (one off windfall). If I had posted that fact in AIBU I’d probably be told to ltb.
However, it was at my suggestion, for a reason that will benefit me so saying ltb would not be appropriate.
Anyway, just musings