I have been invited to a baby shower for the first time. My youngest is 18 and these things didn't exist when I had my children so I have no idea as to how they work. When I got the invite I was on holiday. Invite was via Facebook and I confess that I didn't read it that well, was just very happy to be invited. Said shower is taking place shortly, and re-reading invite I see that there is a gift list attached. I fully intended to take a gift but thought baby shower gifts were small items, tokens if you like and I would give a bigger gift when baby arrives. However, looking on the gift list link there is nothing under £30 and most are a lot more. Among the items listed a 2 different travel systems, a moses basket and another crib for later, a nappy disposing system. All the clothes are expensive designer items, no Primark baby vests here. All much more than I imagined paying (the Mum is not related to me) and it has been made clear that gifts are expected with instructions on how to deliver them! My question is. It this normal practice these days or is the hostess just being a CF? The event is costing me a lot already me: it's taking place in an expensive restaurant (each paying their own) plus train fares, not sure I can afford a big gift on top.