Responses to the "when are babies coming" question??

[OliveRose]

I've posted on here already about TTC age 40 but this is more of a general Chat question. Does anyone have a good generic remark to offer whenever people ask if babies are on the horizon / are we planning on having children / any sign of baby bump yet etc??

This ranges from colleagues, friends, acquaintances and the MIL (who's not that close with me or DH so we wouldn't feel to comfortable sharing our conception progress with). I was inundated with this question at a recent wedding where I bumped into a lot of friends in my 'outer' circle. I would never ask anyone this question and I am staggered how many people do!

As I'm 40 there's the obvious pressure and I just don't know how to respond whenever anyone asks. I don't feel comfortable divulging that we have been TTC for 6 months, or saying that we are not daft, we're aware of the time pressure and we've both had fertility assessments- as frankly it's none if anyone else's business!

I don't want to be rude but I also don't want to feel like I have to open up about my private life. Does anyone have any diplomatic stock responses I can have up my sleeve?

Thanks! X

I think this is difficult because i found the question hurtful and intrusive especially when it is in a group setting. However i didn't want to generate more hurt/ anger/ drama as that wasn't good for me either, so i avoided the brute replies and went with
"who knows what the future holds" which shut most people up apart from the odd rude one who would say don't leave it too late.
I did however post blogs on my facebook about why everyone should stop asking women when they will have kids and that stopped a bunch of people from ever commenting again.

Me and my DP get these ridiculous questions all the time too. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship and people are really interested when my and DP will be having a baby together. Just say "I'd rather not talk about it, its personal"