Neighbour Issue - Advice Please

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We have a neighbour, who for the last 3+ years has been playing Radio 3 in his garden for 12+ hours a day, at an intrusive volume. He is elderly. You can hear it very clearly all of the time.

Previously I wrote asking him to tone it down a bit, I'm very aware it is their right to listen to what they want in their own garden, I'm just looking for a bit of a break, and it did help but now it is as bad as ever. It starts at 7am and is left on when they go inside or go out. It is All The Time.

Because it's like water torture it really beginning to affect my husband's mental health and our family life.

I can't go and speak to him because he's very aggressive. What should I do?

Get environmental health to have a listen?

Thanks for replying Soola. I think because it's not the volume that's excessive it's the duration they're not really interested

Go speak to him again. Surely other neighbours are bothered also, have you asked them? There is safety in numbers and maybe approach him together.

Buy him a little personal pocket radio with earphones (see Argos), and ask him if he would mind using them while out in the garden. Explain your situation calmly and see what might happen.

If he totally ignores you I would pour water over the radio with my hose whilst he is inside. I am not joking. I know he will buy another, but I would do the same. Sometimes you have to fight fire with water!

If you are arrested (lol), well it was one of the kids who pointed the hose the wrong way. Oh dear, it happens.

Maybe he is a bit deaf also? I am and use headphones, earphones all the time.

Good luck, and ignore my law breaking suggestions if you wish, but if I were pushed I wouldn't hesitate. Sorry now. I will not be bullied by anyone.

We live next door to a family and their daughter is an aspiring singer, she listens to her music really loud and sings along to it. We can't open our bathroom window when she's at it as it drives us crazy. We haven't said anything as our relationship with them is amazing and we don't want to ruin it. But I sympathise with you wholeheartedly. I would consider what pp said and complain to environment health, they may be able to do something. Its definitely worth a try right.

Start playing hip hop music on a loop in your garden and wait for him to complain.

Thanks for the replies. The way the gardens are configured it doesn't really affect anyone else.

I think I will write again and make these offers but I suspect I will be told to FRO.

Don't write, please speak, confront him and lay out your stall, calmly and with evidence. Bring along your DP/DH if you have one, if not, a burly friend who is male too. Sorry, I know us women are great, but sometimes dealing with old timers it doesn't work on our own sadly.

Then if told to FRO, keep doing it, keep at him every day.

Why are people in close proximity to others so fkn selfish. I go round with bluetooth headphones in all the time. But I have a hearing difficulty. And TBH even if I didn't, it's the way to go in close quarters IMV.

I think I would fight fire with fire. Classic FM at comparable volume. At some point they will surely address it with you, which will give you the chance to suggest a compromise that suits both sides. (Ie, headphones only when in the garden!).