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What gift for a couple who don’t need anything!

34 replies

AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 21:12

It’s an aunt & uncles Golden Anniversary soon.

My cousin insisted ages ago that she would organise a present from several of us and we could then split the bill but despite being asked and saying it was all in hand she hasn’t sorted it out!

The couple are notoriously difficult to buy for, don’t really have any hobbies etc. don’t need anything for their house or garden etc.

What the hell can I get them at less than 2 weeks notice?! We can’t stretch to the Orient Express but is there a cheaper alternative in Surrey/Sussex maybe?

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RandomMess · 27/07/2019 21:47

Doesn't it do a stretch in Surrey - used to go through Staines??

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 27/07/2019 21:49

Engraved momento - wine / champagne that they can drink and throw or preserve forever

RandomMess · 27/07/2019 21:50

Steamdreams.co.uk they do gift vouchers?

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 27/07/2019 21:51

Flowers, food or wine.

HJWT · 27/07/2019 21:53

Voucher for a nice restaurant?

Ormally · 27/07/2019 21:55

Can only think of the Bluebell railway although it may not be what you had in mind (they do dinner/lunch options on heritage trains).

Membership for a year of National Trust/ Museums Association/ HHA or similar?

Mini break to somewhere with 'Golden' in the title? (Eg Golden Cross - various inns; Golden Sands (Jersey, among other options). Or a ticket to the Tutankhamun exhibition coming for the last time in November (bit left field, but lots of gold!!)

AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 21:58

Thanks for all the ideas so far.

Sorry to be a pain the arse, should have mentioned this in the first place but can’t get anything with alcohol (family issues there).

They’re very fussy about food (some allergies but mainly just fussy and will only eat plain food like meat with spuds and veg cooked to death for an hour!)

They said “oh don’t get us anything” but they said this for their 40th anniversary then sulked, complained and had a drama when no one got anything!!

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Stompythedinosaur · 27/07/2019 22:02

Theatre vouchers.

HJWT · 27/07/2019 22:05

@AlwaysDancing1234 nice family picture book?

AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 22:05

They won’t go to the theatre Stompy it’s too loud apparently!! I know I despair 😩

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 27/07/2019 22:08

I think you're over-investing in this. Honestly, just buy flowers or a plant for the garden or a box of brownies or something.

AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 22:12

Remus I get what you’re saying and I wish I wasn’t so worried about it!
For any big event/birthday they always do that thing where they pretend to be humble and say “we don’t need gifts” then will go on and on... and on... about how “it would have been nice to have a little something as a gift”!
We’ve always got to travel hundreds of miles for the anniversary party. Fuck ‘em I’ll just get a card and be done with it!

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AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 22:15

Ormally I like the ‘Golden’ ideas.
Maybe if I get together with the other cousins and family and we can get a posh gold notebook then write ideas on each page of ‘Golden’ places/things with a few vouchers - does this sound any good or naff? 😬

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 27/07/2019 22:15

And a 'little something' is exactly what you should be getting - just to acknowledge their event, but not to worry about getting the perfect gift or anything. I think it's quite unusual to buy wedding anniversary presents these days.

AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 22:18

Is it that unusual to buy gifts then? My grandparents and some other older family members have had Silver or Ruby Anniversaries and have had parties and gifts - this a Golden so 50 years hence the feeling that we should get more than just a card.
Oh I don’t know I’m going round in circles!!

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user1493494961 · 27/07/2019 22:19

I know you said they don't need anything for the garden but I bought relatives a 'Golden Anniversary' rose bush. You could get that at short notice.

Craptop · 27/07/2019 22:23

They sound like miserable cunts. Why bother! Bunch of flowers,card, job done

Blueemeraldagain · 27/07/2019 22:26

Gold cuff links and a necklace/bracelet/ring that in some way “goes” with the cuff links?

Aurorie11 · 27/07/2019 22:28

Several years ago for some friends of my parents 50th anniversary I got them a newspaper published on the day they married, they were genuinely thrilled

Cismyfatarse1 · 27/07/2019 22:28

What about a Gold photo frame filled with pictures of them / their family.

GotToGoMyOwnWay · 27/07/2019 22:32

Was coming onto say this

www.rhsplants.co.uk/plants/_/rosa-golden-wedding-arokris-pbr/classid.1207/

But I see I’ve been beaten to it.

Ormally · 27/07/2019 22:32

Don't worry too much about it, but yes, from our side family would see this as a 'big (ish) deal' in terms of gifts. DH's wouldn't.

I like the notebook idea even just for the messages if you can do it, but sounds like a fair bit of work.

Any mileage in an overnight stay where they got married or had their honeymoon?

GotToGoMyOwnWay · 27/07/2019 22:33

Do you have any photos of their wedding day & maybe do a collage?

AlwaysDancing1234 · 27/07/2019 22:39

Thanks everyone
craptop you made me laugh!
They’re a lovely couple just very difficult to please when it comes to gifts!
I appreciate all the ideas, I’ll not overthink it and go with a sensible option!

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BikeRunSki · 27/07/2019 22:48

My PIL are like this. We (unimaginatively) have them a yellow rose called “Golden Memories” for their Golden Wedding anniversary. MiL’s reaction was “I suppose we’ll have to find somewhere in the garden for this”. As it was also her birthday, we got her a cake - iced to order etc- from M&S. FiL said “I don’t like shop bought cake” before we’d even cut it.

It was at this point that I wanted to slap them both!