Do you cry a lot? If so what does your DP say or do ?

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My DP isn’t very sympathetic and is more of a tough love type of advisor but I feel I just need a cuddle and some reassurance when I’m upset. He thinks I get upset too easily,
For example, I had a bad day with the kids in this heat and a few other factors plus I didn’t sleep well for 3 nights and woke up tired and tearful, I’ve also got tail end of a virus so feel a bit run down too. I do cry when I’m stressed or sad or struggling but it’s not regular, prob once or twice a month average but I’ve 2 small kids and it’s how I deal with it. I cry and then let it out

I rarely cry but my eyes fill easily.

Don’t have a partner. That often seems a bonus when I read posts on here.

I don't cry often but have had periods of stress where I have if that makes sense. DP gives me a hug and asks how he can help.

That said, in my group of friends with partners/husbands he's very much in the minority that way. I'm grateful for his responses to me, and that we have that kind of relationship.

What does he say to you? Do you tell him you need a hug/support? (I asked that in case he was just a bit emotionally rubbish but not nasty iyswim?)

You deserve to be supported.

I cry a lot. DP usually gives me a hug and asks how he can help. (Exes haven't though)

I cry a lot.
DH is rubbish at knowing what to do.

I’m a crier, my latest ex just used to laugh, helpful.

He’s not nasty, I do just think he isn’t great at this kind of thing. I don’t think he gets it.

Depending on the reason he will cuddle me and ask what he can do to help or wrap me in a blanket and stroke my hair or make a cup of tea.

It sort of depends why I'm crying.

I was close to tears yesterday after a pretty shit first day in a new job, and he got takeaway and put on my favourite film.

When I cried because we couldn't agree on a style of blinds (he only likes verticals I only like ventians) he was considerably less sympathetic.

My DH is a bit tough love; he’s not unkind when I cry but he offers solutions and is the person I go to when I need someone to help “buck me up”. If I need sympathy and a shoulder to cry on then I call my sister or best friend.

I don't cry a lot, but I do sometimes, and he gives me a cuddle, and usually makes a nice cup of tea

I'm not a 'crier. Unfortunately, if I am upset, I tend to get angry/defensive and stressed/shouty so I come across badly and isolate myself when I think if I broke down and cried my dh would probably give me a hug and be sympathetic. The tears won't come though! I think it stems from living in a house all piled on top of each other till I was 25 with my parents and having no privacy or space to let your emotions show.
I am talking day to day stress here, not bereavement. I really think crying would help me relieve stress sometimes, but my body doesn't let me! It is frustrating.

I don’t cry very often. DH is lovely when I do, cups of coffee, cuddles and a sympathetic ear.

He just asks if I want a hug

I'm a crier. DH gives the best bear hugs ever. He doesn't say a lot but he makes me a cuppa, or takes the DCs out if I need a break. Sometimes buys me chocolate too.

My eyes always fill up, I'm a softy at heart. When I cry my husband is sympathetic, will always pull me in and give me a cuddle. I must be the emotional one because he cries at nothing.

I don't cry a lot but when I do it is fairly bad and I could cry myself to sleep for a week. I usually say i can't sleep and go to the sofa. He doesn't do much anyway. He was brought up to be grateful for a roof over his head and no fuss so he doesnt get it at all.

Nope, hardly ever. More since I had a kid- it’s true what they say about it ‘cracking your shell open’!

These days the feeling of tears welling up lets me know that I’m days away from my period. So that usually dries me up. It’s amazing that my brain finds things to get upset about that match my hormones!

I’ve never had a partner or family member that’s truly known how to comfort me if I was crying. We definitely do the ‘buck up’ thing, in my family of origin, on both sides. I’ve always been a good ‘cheerer upperer’ (rebel, me). I hope my daughter will feel more open to crying than I was taught to.

Truthfully, I’ve had a couple of profoundly traumatising periods in my life, where if I’d let myself ‘cry it out’ I feared I’d never stop. Not ‘healthy crying’, in other words.

If it's moody hormonal crying he will make me laugh and snap me out of it.

If it's serious crying he'll hug me and talk me through it, if need be.