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To find out the gender or not?

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username4566421 · 26/07/2019 09:33

20 week scan is coming up for DC2. With DD we found out. This time however I have been thinking it might feel more special to wait and find out when he/she is born. I've even been told by a friend the excitement helped her get through the labour. Just wondered what other MNs think/have done?

DH is happy with whatever I decide. A lot of my family think I'm mad for not finding out

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ErrolTheDragon · 26/07/2019 09:38

Do whatever you and your DH prefer. The sex of your baby makes no difference to anyone else, surely?

And congratulations! Half way there.

SuperPixie247 · 26/07/2019 09:39

I found out with my DS and it was wonderful to wait for him.

However, I always said if I had another I would wait and see. Experience both sides of the coin

Congratulations

Camomila · 26/07/2019 10:11

How old is DD? As in is she old enough to realise she's getting a baby brother/sister.

I found out last time because I felt it would help me bond...I'm not very imaginative I guess and the feutus just felt like an abstract concept or something until I could think if it as a little boy/girl and think of names for him or her.

I'll find out again as DS is 3 and wants to know if he's getting a brother or a sister.

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ExpletiveDelighted · 26/07/2019 10:15

We decided we didn't want to know what sex ours were, but I can't really see that it makes much difference. I didn't give it a moment's thought during labour.

I think where it might help is in talking to your other child about their new brother or sister and being able to choose and use a name. There's really no right or wrong with this.

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username4566421 · 26/07/2019 10:19

DD just turned 2 so doesn't quite understand yet. There is a part of me that thinks it will be special to wait. But another part of me just wants to know. Need to make a decision

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NeverGotMyPuppy · 26/07/2019 10:21

I loved not knowing. If we are lucky enough to conceive again we wont find out.

Abhann · 26/07/2019 10:23

Honestly, OP, it will be either a boy or a girl. Neither of those are surprising outcomes. If you feel you'd like to find out, do. Either way, it won't make the baby's arrival any more or less special. Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy.

Sparklingbrook · 26/07/2019 10:23

I found out. It was great because I knew I was having another boy.

I don't much like surprises and am quite a practical type!

Littleblurry · 26/07/2019 10:24

I didn't find out and would definitely recommend it. The adrenaline and excitement of wondering if we were having a boy or a girl got me through the last few weeks of a 42 week pregnancy! I didn't have any kind of preference though so I guess if you do it might be better to find out first? Totally up to you!!

Funnybunnyfluff · 26/07/2019 10:31

My 20 weeks scan is next week, our first and we are not finding out.

Only a few months to wait and you will know. I like the idea of not knowing and everyone guessing.

We are already talking about it I think a boy DH thinks a girl lol but it's all a guess 😁!

We would be boring if we was all the same. Do what's right for you both. X

birdonawire1 · 26/07/2019 10:32

I think it would be great if you have no preference on gender. I know I desperately wanted a daughter so if I already had one I wouldn't want to know the second time round. If I had a boy I would have the scan result because if it was another boy, I could get over the disappointment early on and be ready to welcome my newborn. Can't imagine anything worse than being told it's another boy just after giving birth and actually feeling upset instead of welcoming my baby.

user1493413286 · 26/07/2019 10:36

It helped me to visualise the baby and my life with her and I’ll find out next time for the same reason as well as to help my DD bond with the baby and get used to a baby brother or sister.
I’m not sure I understand the helping getting through the birth part as I think either way you’re just as excited to meet your baby but it’s all a personal choice.

mistermagpie · 26/07/2019 12:23

I've never found out with mine (am now 21 weeks with my third) and whilst I don't think not knowing made any difference to the labour, it did feel more special (to me) to find out the sex as I was meeting them for the first time. I personally don't like the idea of naming them etc before they are born, but that's mainly because I know people who have had stillbirths and I would prefer not to get that level of attached until they are here.

But people can do what they like, most people I know have found out.

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