Would I be wrong to keep her in my bed tonight?

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My two week old doesn't sleep much at night and it's been getting to me for the last 3-4 days. Tonight as soon as I put her in her basket she wakes up, but she's been asleep next to me in bed for a while now.
I know it's not even midnight yet but I can't have a repeat of last night where I didn't get any sleep until 8am!
Would I be stupid/dangerous to keep her in my bed just for an hour or two until she wakes up for her next feed? I obviously wouldn't have a blanket near her or any pillows

You really have to look into safe co-sleeping if you're going to do this. (Google for guidelines). Especially in this heat.

Oh, bless you. She is only 2 weeks old!
Put your watch away somewhere and just sleep when she sleeps and she will wake you up when she needs you.
Don't put her in your bed to sleep.

Bless you, it’s so hard not getting sleep. I’m pretty sure the advice is no co-sleeping isn’t it? Especially when you’re exhausted yourself. Better to be safe.
Hope you can get some rest. Do you have any help?

I slept with mine next to me for 2 years and was gorgeous. Got way more sleep this way than otherwise. I read safe sleeping guidelines obvs.
What really helped was having them in a sleepyhead or cocoonababy next to me in the bed so they couldn't fall out/get crushed or move around. Worked so well did it until they grew out of sleepyhead. Good luck!! It's lovely sleeping near to each other!!

I wouldn’t personally. I just didn’t feel dd was safe. She’s 14 months and not once slept in our bed.

If you’re going to do it, read up on the correct way.

It’s a cliche but do try and sleep when baby sleeps. It gets better.

I used to do this with my son. Hes now 3 but when he was a baby he was a night mare sometimes id be up for hours doing every thing under the sun with him then when i put him next to me in bed he would sleep for hours. Honestly was a blessing for me. Of course do google it before hand and exact positions of your baby for this.

Not wrong, but read up on the guidelines to be as safe as possible: www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

Looked at a few websites about cosleeping and looked at my bed set up and I'm not sure it's safe - the bed is against the wall and I'd be worried she'd slip down the side. Going to look into a next to me though because I can't carry on like this.
My partner sleeps in a separate room to me as he's overslept every time he's slept in the bedroom to help out. He does help on his days off but doesn't have one until next Wednesday.
I think this heat is making her worse but that doesn't help now.

Still no sleep 😴

Oh bless you and your LO. I think we have all had nights like these and can empathise with you but I know that doesn’t make it easier when you are going through it.

Thank you @Crunched I know it's normal for them to not sleep to a day/night pattern and to just sleep when they do but when she only sleeps for short bursts anyway unless we're outside it's so hard.
It helps she's gorgeous so I don't mind looking at her all night but sometimes I feel like she'd be even more gorgeous asleep

My daughter is 3 weeks old and is doing this during the day! She will only sleep if on mine or partners chest. The second she is down she crys.
We have a Next to me and I absolutely love it! She always wriggles over to the side so I wake up and see her right next to me.
I feel too nervous even having a 5 min nap with her in our bed! But I know she's perfectly safe in hers next to me!

Bed against the wall, remove pillows near the baby, cellular blanket for safe co sleeping.

Enjoy the snuggles and some sleep!

I co-slept and would again. My friend tells me that the advice is less stringent against it now that when we had our first children (7 years ago). But, only do it if you feel comfortable... Safer to do it in a planned way than accidentally (if that makes sense?)

Are you breastfeeding?
If you don't feel confident sleeping with her in your bed (which I would do if I were you if you could set it up safely and if there are no risk factors - because let's be honest, no one can stay awake all day and night so you're going to drop off at some point so you need to prepare for it) then you need to work in shifts with your partner. So let's say he does 7pm to 1am while you sleep then you take over and he sleeps ahead of his work day. Would that work? He may have work but he needs to do his bit as, as I said, no one can stay awake for days on end with a baby who'll only sleep on you.

We finally got to sleep at half two ish - the light was on all night which isn't good in any way but it meant sleep happened.
He does his share in the evening, but in the heat she's feeding more so I'm not getting a proper nap anymore. Next two me is being bought today though so that might help 🤞

Unless your dp is a brain surgeon or drives lorries all day, is it going to kill him to stay up to midnight with the baby so you can get a decent few hours in of a night? If you are breastfeeding, I sympathise, your baby is hot and thirsty and will pretty much be glued to your boob. In which case your partner needs to step up!

I co slept with all three of mine - it’s perfectly safe to do it but as had been said, just read up on how to do it safely. Just like we learn how to put them safely in a cot - feet to foot etc. It’s not wrong at all to co sleep.

It’s much better to plan to co sleep than to end up doing it accidentally - which is unsafe.

Op I had a Co sleeping cot it was life saver, you can properly sleep knowing they are safe.
Ideally needs to be same level as mattress, the most miniscule movement can wake them. Transfer needs to be minimal.

Slept with mine, mainly, from birth until she went to uni. Make it safe. When you are exhausted, it isn’t safe, so start after a sleep! No pillows for you, no gaps, read the advice. It will bring you joy.

Do it. I Co slept with 2 of mine and it was a life saver.

Are you breastfeeding? If so, read the safe sleep guidelines, follow them to the letter and you will be fine. We were given excellent advice by our midwife when DS1 was tiny. She pointed out that sleep-deprived parents were more of a risk than co-sleeping.

I only ask about breastfeeding, because apparently the hormones mean you are more conscious of your baby and sleep slightly differently, so it is safer than if you are formula feeding.

FWIW I co-slept on and off from when mine were less than two weeks old until they were 2-3 and no longer needed to.

I co-slept too. Didn’t make sense to me not to.

Read up on the fourth trimester.

Just let her sleep with you.... you'll get more rest that way. And they'll stop when they don't need it anymore. Dd was 3 and now she never comes into my bed. I miss the snuggle days

Cosleeping is not the devil or some horrible outdated practice that some people make it out to be. Look up the guidelines and make your bed safe for cosleeping. It is infinitely safer to plan to cosleep safely than it is to end up doing it accidentally or in an inappropriate place. It’s about the only thing that saved our sanity.