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Compromise in marriage

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Revealall · 23/07/2019 22:49

Last day of term. Been a hard year and possibly no job next year after October half term.

Husband is freelance so doesn’t get the additional pressure of working day and day out. Possibly I don’t appreciate fully the difficulties of going to a new job every few weeks.He is currently is on holiday but gave me a lift to work despite it being way earlier than he would normally get up an early a good stretch away.

So have been talking about end of term for a while and going for a meal either lunch or dinner on the last day to celebrate. Today is the last day and he has had gone to work. However he volunteered. It’s ok for a local organisation he supports; non paid and no one asked him.

No lunch or dinner plans with me. I went out on my own ad hoc and friends texted him to say where I was. He has not replied to them and no message to me.
So I am cross with him or not? He gave me a lift which was a big ask But has ignored me despite knowing I want to celebrate the end of an era ( and a beautiful evening) .He will however get much appreciation fom his mates m whose job he’s covering.

How much would you compromise?
Ignore discuss or be cross.?

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BackforGood · 23/07/2019 23:14

tbh, celebrating the last day of term tends to be something done (if done at all) with colleagues. People whose lives aren't geared around terms don't really feel the need to breath that great big sigh of relief.

If he was busy, then he was busy. I'd not expect my dh to give up a day of his volunteering to go to lunch with me. We'd arrange any lunches for a time we were both free.

Why did you go on your own, rather than with the colleagues you have been working with ?

If you were on your own, then how come friends texted him ?

Does the task he is volunteering with normally go on into the evening ?

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