Is a girl with no friends a turn-off to a very popular man?

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Is a girl with no friends a turn-off to a very popular man?

I know there's no definitive rules but if anyone has any positive stories, it would be appreciated :)

It wasn't a turn off to my DP.

He's ridiculously gregarious and has a sizeable group of friends that he's known since school.

I like my own company and struggle with friendships plus have moved away from where I grew up.

We socialise with his friends as a couple and when he's out with his mates alone, I happily chill at home.

Really not an issue at all 🙂.

Depends why, I suppose. I didn’t have many friends when I met DP, but I was new to the area. He was handy actually, I’ve just pinched all his friends.

If I met a guy who didn’t have friends and wasn’t new to the area I might try to do a bit of probing to find out why. Somebody who just enjoyed their own company / was a bit introverted but was happy to socialise with my friends = fine. Somebody who was reluctant to engage with anyone or who had dozens of similar stories about how everyone around them treated them badly and that’s why they had no friends = a bit red flaggy.

Hmmm a little bit of a red flag but only if the person blames others for why they don't have friends and has a history falling out with people.

I would be very curious as to why someone literally had no friends, like not even one? But then I would try to include them in my circle. Do his friends not have wives/girlfriends that you can chat to?

Thanks for all your helpful responses so far, everyone.

By no friends, I mean as I'd always been a bit of a loner by choice (I can be loud and jokey etc. but I do like my own company (i.e. entertain myself) and really need alone time after e.g. a whole night of social interaction so have always been able to make a lot of acquaintances (as I can easily talk to complete strangers without shyness) but no real friends. I'm fine like that as feel I could get more than enough social interaction from the person I'm dating and family but I do wonder if it comes across weird though.

comes across weird to super popular, outgoing guys with lots of close friends.

I would think it strange that anyone had no friends.

I would think it's a lot of pressure for a new man to be your only friend. You know that you can entertain yourself and that you're not lonely, but will he understand that? Everytime he goes out alone with his friends and work colleagues, will he feel sorry that you're home alone and feel uncomfortable? I'm not sure.
But if you like him, you should give it your best shot. There's no right way to live life.

I would think it's a lot if pressure for a new man to be your only friend. You know that you can entertain yourself and that you're not lonely, but will he understand that? Everytime he goes out alone with his friends and work colleagues, will he feel sorry that you're home alone and feel uncomfortable? I'm not sure.
But if you like him, you should give it your best shot. There isn't any right or wrong with having friends, just preference.

Thanks everyone for your responses so far

I would think any normal man wouldn't be thinking sexually about a 'girl'.

Why? Is it a tabloid article or a crappy novel you're trying to write?

Wouldnt bother me in the slightest. I'm looking to date that individual, not her friends. It would be nice that she has work colleagues or hobby buddies that she talks to, just so she has things to talk to me about. HTH.

It wasn’t a turn off for my OH. He has loads of friends, I only have 6 friends I knew from school who have all moved up the line.
So i really have no friends in our town. Associates who I yap to in the playground, park etc, but no friends who I actually socialise with.

Ooh, you cynic Sarah Assuming you're not a journo or wannabe writer OP, then I think it doesn't matter that much if you are happy in yourself, confident, self-assured, opposite of needy. In England there tends to be this idea of doing things alone as being desperate somehow - the Billy-no-mates cliche. In Europe it feels much easier to have a drink alone with a book or dine alone or catch a movie, nobody gives a fuck, maybe it's just more of a cafe culture than pub culture.
If you've met Mr Extrovert, if you have your own life/hobbies etc not sure why it should be a deal-breaker as long as you are not expecting him to drop his mates/include you in everything he does. How old are you both?

Tbh if you can't form basic friendships, I'd wonder how you could begin to form romantic relationships.

I don’t know what a man would think, but I dated someone with no friends and discovered it was a huge red flag. Never again!

I am a man.

It would depend on the circumstances for me. If someone has no friends because they have alienated former friends, that is very different from someone who lived in a rural area, or lost touch when moving a long distance.