Does anyone else think they're the only person who doesn't have their shit together?

[wichitalinemanswoman]

As in having a busy fun packed Summer with the kids and friends and family? And packed weekends full of socialising and drinking and invites etc?

I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't live like this and I feel really crappy as a person that I don't.

Logically I know there are lots of hopeless criminals, homeless, users & losers (none of which I am)... still get disappointed when I screw up. Which is often. Every day. (sigh) What else can you do, though? Just keep trying to get it right.

ps: I don't care about social life, though, if you want that, homeless people do often have quite vibrant social lives full of drinking and invites, including with "friends"

Right now, I'm sitting in bed and failing to do housework. I do this a lot.

I suck.

I try to remind myself life is not like the waitrose Christmas adverts. That does the trick. Currently on holiday but whole family on screens. Trying not to compare myself to the cool buff surfer dads on the beach earlier today :)

Yes me! Other people have jobs and interests and friends and such. I also sit in bed and don't do housework.

Yup.
I am a hopeless, easily irritated mother who wishes her kids were rather different to reality. I am ok on housework but look a total mess. Gave up social life and my main hobby ages ago as too exhausted!

All our friends seem to have bright offspring who 'love' all veg, only drink water and practice their instruments for hours daily.

I moved to part time work few years back which I tell others is 'because I have young children' but is really cos I selfishly can't cope without time to myself.

I suspect I am not alone but it often feels that way!

Yup. My life is a mess. I have no friends, meant to be doing a masters degree but I'm so behind on it. I love my children but fail them daily. I'm fat and lazy.

I have the things mentioned planned and am dreading it all and just want to be alone. Not sure that is at all helpful :-(

I felt like that a year ago. Then I made significant changes. Started approaching people (mainly current and former work colleagues - easy access), carving out time for my hobbies, focusing on things my children like as well as including them in housework and do at least one big chore a day. It paid off. I have something on every day this holiday, with social occasions every other day. Some volunteer work, too, just to get connected with some more people. As opposed to last year where there were 6 weeks of nothing.

I'm a massive introvert and it took a lot at first, but I'm a lot more confident now.

Yes I posted here to be a bit of a kick up the arse and maybe a help for others too?

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult a couple of years back. Have a read of the inattentive subtype description if you feel like this.

Will explain more in a bit but DS2 has just gone to sleep and I want to prioritise that now.