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Two weeks notice for wedding celebration

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Yellowbride · 22/07/2019 14:40

We’re eloping in secret (Vegas) and a month after we get home my brother in law and wife are moving to SE Asia (just announced). We planned to have a celebratory party later in the year but really want him there so is it unreasonable to throw our party two weeks after our wedding while they’re still in England. It would mean two weeks notice to our guests but the venue we liked by some miracle have availability so it is possible...

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MaudAndOtherPoems · 22/07/2019 14:42

In all the circumstances, I think yes, go for it (although obviously the flip side is that some people might not be able to come at (fairly) short notice).

FckIt · 22/07/2019 14:43

Could you not throw a party just as a family gathering and then on the day belike 'surprise we're married' 😂

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 22/07/2019 14:46

Yes I’d have the party on your return because waiting until later in the year is just weird, like why have a party 6 months after you got married

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Yellowbride · 22/07/2019 14:46

I do feel sad that some people might not make it on two weeks notice but we really are very close to my future brother in law and wife and I believe our close friends and family will be able to come so it would be the aunts and uncles etc that might not be able to attend on short notice. Is two weeks really bad notice? Don’t want to offend anyone but feel our hand is being forced and we would be happy to have the celebration close to the actual marriage (don’t want to drag it all out!)

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Yellowbride · 22/07/2019 14:48

If I received an invite like this with two weeks notice I wouldn’t think anything of it and I would either be able to attend or not. Provided my plans weren’t for anything major, if the marriage was someone close to me I think I would try my best to organise myself to go to the party but maybe a lot of people would be annoyed at lack of notice

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homemadegin · 22/07/2019 14:57

Yeah agree with @FckIt just throw a party and do the surprise bit during it.

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Yellowbride · 22/07/2019 15:00

@FckIt @homemadegin that’s actually a good idea!

Would you mind the two weeks notice bit? It’s a Saturday so I guess it’s a case of people are either available and happy to come at such short notice or not!

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CalmFizz · 22/07/2019 15:06

How far away is it? I think you should organise and invite people ASAP. You don’t need to tell them it’s a post wedding party.

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Yellowbride · 22/07/2019 15:28

We did consider this but we’ve been engaged for a while and constantly field questions about when we’ll marry. I think it would invoke suspicion as what would the party be for? All family and friends live locally (within 30 mile radius)

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homemadegin · 22/07/2019 16:15

Two weeks notice wouldn't bother me but would likely make me more suspicious post holiday!! Summer party? BBQ just because? End of holidays?

FckIt · 22/07/2019 16:27

I'd invite them now to a normal gathering two weeks after the wedding and just say wouldn't it be nice if we all got together on a summers day to have a bbq? Like keep it casual.

And then you can announce that you went and got married a few weeks back.

FadedRed · 22/07/2019 16:34

Combine your celebration with a Bon Voyage for your DB and SIL? Then you could send the invitations out earlier than two weeks? Can understand if you don’t want to do that though.

PolarBearOnARaft · 22/07/2019 16:37

I'd come for a wedding party not necessarily just a bbq. Tell.people. like you say they'll either be able to come or not.

Happynow001 · 22/07/2019 16:50

I'd love it - especially if I wasn't traveling hundreds of miles to be there! Sometimes more impromptu parties are the best!

Combine your celebration with a Bon Voyage for your DB and SIL? Then you could send the invitations out earlier than two weeks?
I think this ^^ is a good idea also. Gives everyone a little extra time to rearrange schedules if necessary and doubles up as a farewell party for for the two moving to Asia.

Kez200 · 22/07/2019 18:58

I would also arrange it as a party and then drop it on everyone there.

If you do it last minute, depending on who you are mates with you may find a lot cant come. Also if family are moving away they may well be invited to something else to say goodbye. Id imagine the weeks before you go would be very full on indeed. At least if your party is arranged they will block the date out.

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