Husband has short fuse

[Michessex15]

I have been with my husband 8 years. We have five children. My 2 eldest are from my previous marriage. Over the years he has lost his temper over small things. He has punched a wall through bedroom door and then tried to do this again earlier this year in my older daughters door. He has smashed things up in kitchen . He use to run off to his mum's and ignore my calls for one night everytime we had big argument. He can longer do this as she died a few years ago. He doesn't show affection of say or show he loves. He has started to compliment me every now and again be wise he is trying to make effort.he clashes with my 12 year old daughter. She can be hard work but he has started to get personal like a child with her. Called her ugly without her make up be wise she said my son had bags under his eyes after my so said she was lazy and yesterday she wouldn't clear dinner table so my husband called her "lanky". She is no angel sometimes but that's just kids. There is do much more to say that has left me upset. It's good sometimes otherwise I would not have 3 kids with him. He works hard . I feel the love I feel for him has been knocked out of me but am I being too sensitive ?

He’s a dreadful fucker and this is no way to bring kids up. Life really doesn’t have to be like this nor should it.

Well he said he is going to spsin for a while

Have you contacted women’s aid or a local domestic abuse organisation. He is volatile and abusive and the pack of empathy is also worrying. You can leave him and build a better life for your dcs - do it for them.

He doesn't see the problem . Just keeps saying " never your fault is it" . " I know what your about " things like that. He won't discuss things in a calm manner. He hurt his knee working and said he can't do much with knee way it is. I have helped him running about chemist ice packs spray etc. So during the argument I said all the time I just had a baby was pregnant and pulled my back I didn't get a bath run for me a cup of tea or even ask how I was . So I won't care about your knee

I have spoke to a webchat help line similar to women's aid but nothing much I can do right now

I said he had to stop shouting and discuss things to resolve things and he kept shouting " go away go away ".

There is a lot you can and should do. You can get an occupation order to get him out of your house for a starter!! No woman or child should be abused like this.

I think he will go . He doesn't see any blame. I press wrong buttons.

I doubt very much you are pressing his buttons that’s what abusive men do. They also cannot take responsibility for their abuse so shove it all into you. Very unpleasant and sadly it only gets worse over time

I thinks calling my daughter lanky is wrong. He doesn't . I said it's the tone it was said. He said it spiteful. And even after he aid yeah so what I called her lanky. I brought it up in argument today as but my tongue after already saying it was wrong. He said he is always on the defense with her . I said but she doesn't mention your personal appearance she just gives attitude as kids do

He is trying to level out because I called my son an idiot. He was being naughty and hurt one of the girls by accident. These things happen when you have five kids. Sometimes I shout and drop a swear word . You know what it's like your doing house work and your trying to hurry because kids have to be dropped somewhere and sometimes I get agitated and they will all e sarguing and sometimes and I mean sometimes I will say " oh fuck sake stop it " well he has taken this and using it against me now to make him look better. I said loads of mum's do that and if course I feel bad after but it's never personal plus they ignore it anyway