Have you changed how you behave?

[Monique679]

A strange one but here goes. I am in a professional job but have historically been quite unconfident (in my mid 20s) to the point where I think people have noticed and thought I didn’t fit in. I can be quite acquiescent and sometimes get stressed and go in circles rather than projecting a cool, calm exterior. I also have been known to run late for things, not look as groomed as I’d like to be etc etc - which all paints a picture.

I can alter these habits if I try really hard - be early, look groomed, be calm - but it’s hard! I’m also not one of those people who is naturally efficient and “quick” which my job seems to demand! I get tired and lose focus, then struggle - I can focus if I put my mind to it (and do) but get overwhelmed in a noisy office, with competing distractions.

I guess my question is can I be this ideal of this person who is calm and perfectly put together? I really do want to be her! And has anyone done similar without it coming naturally to them?!

you’ve just begun your career in the grand scheme of things, and it just sounds like you’re still learning how to be ‘you’. Try and keep on top of the easier stuff, organise everything for work the night before, plan reminders for important things, eat and sleep well when you can. Get your grooming regime as simple as possible!
Once you get a few professional achievements under your belt your confidence will grow.
Ask for advice and feedback from people you admire, maybe make a dream list of things to achieve?
Everyone has to start somewhere, often those who look cool and collected are projecting or arrogant and make a mistake! I think people appreciate honesty and a willingness to learn.