Partner just pushed me over the Bed onto the floor

[lurcher4]

I'm really confused, my Partner of 8 year's just pushed me over the Bed onto the floor during a big argument where I accused him of gas lighting me, he just looked so full of rage, he's never done this before, I'm disabled due to Hernia Mesh, i have tonsillitis and I'm nursing my beautiful 17yr old Lurcher 24/7 my doctor put me on Beta blockers for Anxiety but he says I'm nuts
He has MS he was diagnosed 6 year's ago, is this what's caused it?
Sorry this is so long but I am so confused, he is just crying and throwing up, he isn't talking, I'm in agony with my back & bruised down my side

Thank you 🐕

I'm lucky in that respect, the house is in my name only, I know everyone's right but it's such a confusing shock

What he did is wrong, ask him to leave. Please speak to your GP about your Hernia Mesh as its completely repairable and should not leave you with a permanent disabity.

Op you absolutely don't deserve this treatment. As safely as possible get him gone. No excuse for violence.

TanMateix SHAME ON YOU for such victim blaming tripe!

Soola - I'm surprised at you minimising DV?

@Graphista not minimising domestic violence.

I read it as they’re both lots of life problems and physical and emotional problems and an argument escalated into him losing his temper and shoving her.

No mention of any aggressiveness or violence previously?

If he addresses what happened and she knows him well enough to believe him if he is willing to take steps to understand and ensure he never loses control and hurts her again, then I think she should give him another chance.

It sounds like he has cracked from the strain.

If he addresses what happened and she knows him well enough to believe him if he is willing to take steps to understand and ensure he never loses control and hurts her again, then I think she should give him another chance

Did you miss the silent treatment for 2 days? Is that acceptable also because it reads to me that this isn't a new thing?

Some people seem to have a really low bar in what they're willing to accept on this thread.

Tell him he needs to have moved out by next week end. The police can assist you in making this happen. He has no rights to your home.
Do not accept this. MS isn't an excuse to be a violent bully.

I don't care whether he has cracked from the strain or not. He has assulted a woman recovering from an operation and she's ended up on the floor. That is NEVER ok.

Christ, what is wrong with some people on this thread? I despair.

Get help from the police OP, you don't deserve this treatment.

@gamerchick yes I have missed the silent treatment post. I will go back and reread the thread.

I’ll change my opinion if that’s the case!

Thank you for pointing that out.

List everything annoying, disappointing, or disrespectful that he does OP. You don't have to list it out for us, but for yourself.
You say it is a confusing shock, but this man's personality didn't develop in the last week. I think you may be wearing rose-tinted glasses.
Glad to hear that you own your home. He may be worried about you kicking him out after what he did and put on a show of caring. Remember that he sulked and gave you icy treatment for 2 days. That was sustained and conscious. If you feel afraid of him at any point please confide in real life friends and family.

Hi @lurcher4 how are you today?

How are you?
Do you have friends or family you can confide in? I hope he's moved out already and you've told him to leave