Drug driving- would it end your friendship

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My friends husband drove round to mine the other night to take my dc to an event along with his own 2 dc and my friend. He is on medication that renders him unable to drive (she said he was zombified) and he is supposed to inform the DVLA of his treatment. I refused to allow him to take dc so my friend drove instead. I was and still am furious that they both took that risk of him driving. She text me saying they had made up as he fell out with her telling me. No apology, no nothing regarding the incident. All fine and happy in their abusive household apparently.

I've been supporting her through his illness and her affair and there have been many times I've distanced myself but this was the final straw and I've ended the friendship. No one knowingly puts my child in danger and it's only that I looked at the car parked some distance away that I knew he was driving.

Would you have done the same?

what is the actual drug?

He’s drink driving as well then. For fucks sake.

Oh come on, he's driving under the influence of drugs and alcohol FFS.

You can't not report him !

He's not drinking at the moment as he's undergoing detox but yes he's drug driving on chlordiazepoxide. He usually drinks around 15 units a night then takes the kids to school in the car the next morning. I have reported now. Why does doing the right thing feel shit?

Because it definitely means the end of your friendship, and you're a good person so don't want to cause trouble for other people.

You've definitely done the right thing OP.

I'm actually glad that I'm no longer the keeper of secrets for her relationships. It put me in an awkward position.

Glad you reported OP. It only takes a small misjudged manoeuvre and he could kill someone. Please try to not feel bad

I'd also report to the police, if you haven't already

Well done OP, good on you.

Well done. Thank you for reporting him. Your action will help to keep the rest of us safe.

Hi Op, you are right of course but I’m surprised his doctor hasn’t pressured him to inform the DVLA (or gone behind his back and done it). I have two experiences with this, one with my mum where they weren’t sure what was causing her to have tiny fits (lasting two or three seconds) and the doc said if she didn’t inform the DVLA he would and then with my FIL he was on a medication and the GP informed the DVLA without letting my FIL know first. One of them said that after the Glasgow bin lorry tragedy they have to be a lot more careful when they know a patient is probably not ok to drive.

Well he obviously hasn't taken the advice of the alcohol service and told the DVLA himself as he drove past me this morning. Luckily not with the kids in the car. I'm sure he'll be back to driving them this weekend though and over the holidays.

Report! Honestly we have threads on here with ppl reporting their own family for benefit fraud, where as morally wrong it is, no1s going to die. Absolutely report. He could kill some1

I have reported but not sure how long it takes for the DVLA to take action.

I've spoken to the DVLA and they said they act on information straight away so he would have had a letter by now and has to reply within 14 days. If he doesn't they contact the GP. License will be revoked for 12 months and they require doctors information to ensure he's sober before a license will be re-issued so he'll be off the road for a year at least. He's an idiot.

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Well done op, I am so glad you reported this.

Me too as the DVLA obviously take this very seriously. I was really impressed by the system they have in place.

I reported my own FIL. He had Parkinsons and his medication made him a danger on the roads and he had to be assessed yearly. The assessment was his consultant asking him if he felt able to drive, him saying yes and that was deemed enough. MIL wanted him to drive because it meant that she didn't have to drive him everywhere.

DH and I told them that if he continued to drive (he drove into a wall and a tree within a week) we would report him to the DVLA. He assured us he wouldn't be so silly and wouldn't drive any more. He did so we reported him. DH told him he was going to do it. Not easy and went down badly but tough shit.

A PP suggested the GP should have reported him. That's not true. The GP's first obligation is to tell the patient to self-report. GPs only report to the DVLA if they subsequently find out a patient hasn't told the DVLA themselves.

Fuck that. Report him. You have a moral obligation to do so.

Note to self, keep up with threads

Yes You it was me - I was wrong, you are right. Thanks.

Well, despite reporting him he's still driving. I can't believe it and am so angry he's driving his little boy around.

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